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Recovery Quote of The Day!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 22, 2018

 

“I think you may judge of a man’s character by the persons whose affection he seeks. If you find a man seeking only the affection of those who are great, depend upon it he is ambitious and self-seeking; but when you observe that a man seeks the affection of those who can do nothing for him, but for whom he must do everything, you know that he is not seeking himself, but that pure benevolence sways his heart.” 

Charles H. Spurgeon, The Prince of Preachers, on choosing friendships

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 22, 2018

FAITH WITHOUT WORKS IS DEAD

From The Book of James 2:14-26 . . . .

“What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith, and I have works.” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. You believe that there is one God. You do well. Even the demons believe—and tremble! But do you want to know, O foolish man, that faith without works is dead? Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered Isaac his son on the altar? Do you see that faith was working together with his works, and by works faith was made perfect? And the Scripture was fulfilled which says, “Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness.” And he was called the friend of God. You see then that a man is justified by works, and not by faith only. Likewise, was not Rahab the harlot also justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out another way? For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 21, 2018

PETER DEFENDS GOD’S GRACE

From The Book of Acts 11:1-18 . . . .

“Now the apostles and brethren who were in Judea heard that the Gentiles had also received the word of God. And when Peter came up to Jerusalem, those of the circumcision contended with him, saying, “You went in to uncircumcised men and ate with them!” But Peter explained it to them in order from the beginning, saying: “I was in the city of Joppa praying; and in a trance I saw a vision, an object descending like a great sheet, let down from heaven by four corners, and it came to me. When I observed it intently and considered, I saw four-footed animals of the earth, wild beasts, creeping things, and birds of the air. And I heard a voice saying to me, ‘Rise, Peter; kill and eat.’ But I said, ‘Not so, Lord! For nothing common or unclean has at any time entered my mouth.’ But the voice answered me again from heaven, ‘What God has cleansed you must not call common.’ Now this was done three times, and all were drawn up again into heaven. At that very moment, three men stood before the house where I was, having been sent to me from Caesarea. Then the Spirit told me to go with them, doubting nothing. Moreover these six brethren accompanied me, and we entered the man’s house. And he told us how he had seen an angel standing in his house, who said to him, ‘Send men to Joppa, and call for Simon whose surname is Peter, who will tell you words by which you and all your household will be saved.’ And as I began to speak, the Holy Spirit fell upon them, as upon us at the beginning. Then I remembered the word of the Lord, how He said, ‘John indeed baptized with water, but you shall be baptized with the Holy Spirit.’ If therefore God gave them the same gift as He gave us when we believed on the Lord Jesus Christ, who was I that I could withstand God?” When they heard these things they became silent; and they glorified God, saying, “Then God has also granted to the Gentiles repentance to life.””

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 20, 2018

THE OUTWORKING OF LOVE

From The Book of 1 John 3:16-23 . . . .

“By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him? My little children, let us not love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth. And by this we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before Him. For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight. And this is His commandment: that we should believe on the name of His Son Jesus Christ and love one another, as He gave us commandment.” 

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 19, 2018

GOD’S COMMISSION TO JOSHUA

From The Book of Joshua 1:1-9 . . . .

“After the death of Moses the servant of the Lord, it came to pass that the Lord spoke to Joshua the son of Nun, Moses’ assistant, saying: “Moses My servant is dead. Now, therefore, arise, go over this Jordan, you and all this people, to the land which I am giving to them—the children of Israel. Every place that the sole of your foot will tread upon I have given you, as I said to Moses. From the wilderness and this Lebanon as far as the great river, the River Euphrates, all the land of the Hittites, and to the Great Sea toward the going down of the sun, shall be your territory. No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life; as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you nor forsake you. Be strong and of good courage, for to this people you shall divide as an inheritance the land which I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, that you may observe to do according to all the law which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may prosper wherever you go. This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

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A Writer’s Thoughts On . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 18, 2018

YOUR HEALING PROCESS:

A BAND-AID OR TRANSFORMATION PROCESS?

 

As I have mentioned before, I spend quite a bit of time working with men who are struggling with addictive behaviors. Some have struggled for a couple of years while others have had this problem for decades and not having anywhere to turn for help. I’m thankful and grateful that God has healed me and has blessed me to walk in purity and freedom from those very same behaviors, so now, I want to give back to those men who are struggling and let them know that there is hope for freedom for them! Over the last several years though, I’ve encountered men who truly want help from their issues; dealing with adultery, affairs and lust, pornography. Many of them have been on the brink of divorce if they don’t get help right away. But I also have encountered those men who want help but don’t want to fully engage in the process because it either takes to long or they don’t want to commit to the process wholeheartedly. It’s like they want help but they just want the “short version” of recovery to show their wives that they’ve made an effort to get help. The previous guys mentioned have committed themselves but the transformation process, which deals with the internal issues (hurts, pain, trauma, etc.)  never gets revealed or followed through. Here I have two guys who want and desire the same thing but want different solutions with the same results. In all my years of recovery and working with men, and that’s about a little over 18 years now and counting, I’ve learned a couple of things about recovery – you either want recovery and all that it includes or you don’t! There is no other way to look at this challenge.

THE BAND-AID ADDICT

I understand his heart and what he wants – he wants healing, whatever that looks like to him, in as quick a time as possible. Despite whatever he has gone through in his life, whether its adultery, affairs, lust, promiscuous behavior lifestyle, he wants to get “fixed” as soon as possible. If it were that easy there wouldn’t be enough support groups to hold all the men who have this problem. He will totally ignore his hurts, his wounds, and his pains just to get that fix so he can move on in life. But I’m writing this for those guys who have this mentality – it will never work, and it’ll take you right back into your mess, maybe even deeper than you were in it before you reached out for help. You don’t want to just get a quick fix for a problem that took probably years to grow and develop into this major problem! I suggest you stop right where you’re at and really take a serious look at your problem and dig deep into how long you’ve truly struggled with these behaviors and you’ll probably discover that you’ve been dealing with these issues since your childhood. A quick fix isn’t going to eradicate several years or decades of seeds that have manifested itself from looking at your dad’s dirty book collection to being a womanizer and a sex addict. Forget about trying to cover up the pain and hurt you’re feeling by medicating it with sexual encounters or just plain sex! You’re not addressing the issue. It’s not sex or the illicit relationships or behaviors, it’s your pain, your wounds you’ve suffered and you’re afraid to go back and deal with them.

THE FEARFUL ADDICT

I know you want help and you make it abundantly clear in words and thoughts. Your mind has been telling you that you need to get some help before something drastic happens. You’ve told yourself time and time again “I’ve got to stop this . . . . I’ll do it just one more time and then I’ll stop . . . . I’ll give myself until the end of the week, the month . . . ” But the words, the desires don’t ever match up with the heart, which leads to actions, which leads to transformation internally. When I began my recovery in 2000, I said the same things and it got me nowhere fast. I only ended up in my mess and going deeper than I truly wanted to go. Just like the guy who wanted a quick fix, there are some pains, hurts and wound you’ve experienced and when you’re being shown a process to follow on how to get that help and begin to walk in freedom you’re fearful of what that looks like because you’ve probably don’t know what living and walking in freedom looks like. It’s downright scary to the addict who has been in his mess for decades, and in order for that process to take effect there has to be a transformation within (heart) that leads to better choices, better decisions, and a better perspective. Not to mention a better mindset of understanding who you are and your purpose in life. What’s keeping him from experiencing transformation? Fear, and the exposure of maybe some other things that have troubled him over the years. With all of that going on it’s no wonder why transformation is delayed or never takes place. To break this curse, this being bound, we need to persevere and trust the process that you’re in. All the light you’ll experience, the hope, and the courage to go into those dark places and expose the lies, the shame, and bring newness and the hope (Jesus Christ) where there was none. You can change and allow transformation to take place, just believe and let the process work for you. Get connected with a good, Christian Bible-based support group near you and let that process begin in your life if you truly want to begin walking, and living in freedom from your struggles.

So if you can identify yourself as one of these individuals, make a strong and consorted effort stop looking for the quick fix, and persevere in your efforts to follow through with the process because I promise you it will be all worth it in the end.

 

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Recovery Tip For This Week!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 18, 2018

BE INTENTIONAL WITH PURPOSEFUL LIVING

In my daily walk with the Lord God, I find myself wanting to do the right thing all the time. I don’t want to disappoint the Lord because He desires the very best of me and from me. I realize that in this flesh I can be tempted to do almost anything to anyone with an agenda. But that isn’t who I am, nor who I desire to be. I want to be who the Lord God created me to be: the image of Christ! That means I must allow God to mold, to shape, to establish direction and purpose in and with my life for His glory not my own. How do I do that and what does that look like? I begin first and foremost with making Him Lord over my life and all that I am. I make a conscious decision to follow Him with my whole heart and not be persuaded to compromise either to the left or right. I have to be true, honest and transparent in my daily activities with others as well as myself. And most importantly I must invite the Holy Spirit to lead me and guide me into all truth and understanding with the intent to glorify and exalt the King of kings and Lord of lords Jesus Christ. Now I have a purpose with the intent to live purposefully, without a hidden agenda and without selfishness involved to bring attention to me instead of to the Lord God Almighty. For those of you in recovery, take an honest look at where you are in your walk with the Lord and see if you’re trying to live intentional with a purpose in mind.

“For our boasting is this: the testimony of our conscience that we conducted ourselves in the world in simplicity and godly sincerity, not with fleshly wisdom but by the grace of God, and more abundantly toward you.” 

–  2 Corinthians 1:12 

 

 

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 18, 2018

THE BRANCH OF RIGHTEOUSNESS

From The Book of Jeremiah 23:1-8 . . . .

“Woe to the shepherds who destroy and scatter the sheep of My pasture!” says the Lord. Therefore thus says the Lord God of Israel against the shepherds who feed My people: “You have scattered My flock, driven them away, and not attended to them. Behold, I will attend to you for the evil of your doings,” says the Lord. “But I will gather the remnant of My flock out of all countries where I have driven them, and bring them back to their folds, and they shall be fruitful and increase. I will set up shepherds over them who will feed them, and they shall fear no more, nor be dismayed, nor shall they be lacking,” says the Lord.

“Behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord, “That I will raise to David a Branch of righteousness; A King shall reign and prosper, And execute judgment and righteousness in the earth. In His days Judah will be saved, And Israel will dwell safely; Now this is His name by which He will be called:

THE LORD OUR RIGHTEOUSNESS.”

“Therefore, behold, the days are coming,” says the Lord, “that they shall no longer say, ‘As the Lord lives who brought up the children of Israel from the land of Egypt,’ but, ‘As the Lord lives who brought up and led the descendants of the house of Israel from the north country and from all the countries where I had driven them.’ And they shall dwell in their own land.”” 

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Recovery Quote of The Day!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 15, 2018

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 15, 2018

PRAYER FOR BOLDNESS

From The Book of Acts 4:23-31 . . . .

“And being let go, they went to their own companions and reported all that the chief priests and elders had said to them. So when they heard that, they raised their voice to God with one accord and said: “Lord, You are God, who made heaven and earth and the sea, and all that is in them, who by the mouth of Your servant David have said:

‘Why did the nations rage, And the people plot vain things? The kings of the earth took their stand, And the rulers were gathered together Against the Lord and against His Christ.’

“For truly against Your holy Servant Jesus, whom You anointed, both Herod and Pontius Pilate, with the Gentiles and the people of Israel, were gathered together to do whatever Your hand and Your purpose determined before to be done. Now, Lord, look on their threats, and grant to Your servants that with all boldness they may speak Your word, by stretching out Your hand to heal, and that signs and wonders may be done through the name of Your holy Servant Jesus.” And when they had prayed, the place where they were assembled together was shaken; and they were all filled with the Holy Spirit, and they spoke the word of God with boldness.“”

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