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Recovery Quote For The Day!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 17, 2017

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My Daily Devotion – DON’T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 17, 2017

START YOUR DAY OFF WITH GOD’S WORD!

Today’s Reading: Mark 8:13-21 . . . .

“And He left them, and getting into the boat again, departed to the other side. Now the disciples had forgotten to take bread, and they did not have more than one loaf with them in the boat. Then He charged them, saying, “Take heed, beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod.” And they reasoned among themselves, saying, “It is because we have no bread.” But Jesus, being aware of it, said to them, “Why do you reason because you have no bread? Do you not yet perceive nor understand? Is your heart still hardened? Having eyes, do you not see? And having ears, do you not hear? And do you not remember? When I broke the five loaves for the five thousand, how many baskets full of fragments did you take up?” They said to Him, “Twelve.” “Also, when I broke the seven for the four thousand, how many large baskets full of fragments did you take up?” And they said, “Seven.” So He said to them, “How is it you do not understand?”

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A Writer’s Thoughts On . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 16, 2017

Spousal Support In Recovery:

Is She Really On Your Side? You Better Believe it!

With all that we as husbands in recovery have done to our wives with our behaviors, we often think about this a lot. Our behaviors have caused so much damage, violated the very trust our wives had in us to be the head of the house, the spiritual leaders of our home, as well as the loving, kind and considerate covenant companion she’s always dreamed of. Yep! That used to be a lot of us at one point or another. But now that we all are in recovery, working on getting ourselves together by addressing those hurts, those wounds, that pain, and all the things that led us to those behaviors that brought the shame and guilt with exposure, we often wonder does our wife really and truly still support and believe in us? This is a question that crosses our minds time and time again. Image result for spousal support in recovery

Why do we think that as husbands? After all, aren’t we’re the ones who caused the damage? Aren’t we’re the ones that hid or brought those behaviors into the marriage. And aren’t we’re the ones who made the choices to invite those behaviors into our very own lives? Our wives didn’t ask for this! So even though we’re working on trying to get it right, doing the right thing by getting the help we need, we still think about whether our wives still believe we can get better with the help we’re seeking. This is a lot of pressure on us guys as we commit ourselves to recovery, and the very last thing we want to realize is that our wife aren’t on our side or support us. We might be doing everything right; going to our meetings, making our scheduled counseling appointments on time; making time for her daily, talking about our recovery and what it’s doing for us. She says she supports me but that feeling just isn’t there that we know for sure she is. Okay guys, let’s cut it right there and put an end to the pity party and recognize some very important points we’re missing here in regards to spousal support.

First of all, being a brother in recovery I know beyond any doubt that my wife is supporting on every facet of my recovery efforts. She doesn’t tell me she supports me, she shows me by being there for me. She encourages me , prays for me, lifts my spirit when I’m feeling challenged and overwhelmed by life, by work, by the stresses of daily life. She sees my efforts, the time I’m putting into my recovery to make myself better and more aware of the challenges I face daily, and let’s me know that if I needed anything she’s there. She doesn’t criticize me when I make a mistake or get mad when a decision doesn’t turn out like we envisioned it would. What she does do is comfort me in knowing that’s its okay to not have all the answers. It’s okay when things don’t happen like they should. That’s support for me where growing up I didn’t have that. She helps me see things without focusing on trying to fix it because some things are meant to be fixed. Some things are meant to be looked at, observed, and asked what did I learn from that situation. She does that for me! And no, I’m not delusional, or lost my marbles, or the elevator doesn’t go all the way up to the top. I know I lack some competencies, some understanding in certain areas. But that’s where she helps me, supports me in coming back to the basics of life because my behaviors had distorted that view of life considerably with lies, deceit, and a plethora of other concerns that have affected me over the years. Image result for spousal support in recovery

When she sees me staying true and consistent to all of my recovery efforts, not reverting back to old behaviors, she admonishes me and lets me know she’s proud of me, that she sees what I’m doing and that makes her very happy about us, our family and our future. That’s what fuels my fire about recovery, and that’s makes all the difference in the world that I continue doing what I’m doing, being consistent and genuine in everything. She’s pleased. She’s happy. That’s the support I need as I do recovery, no matter what it looks like. I also have a strong accountability support system that she feels confidant about because she knows I have godly men in my life who I answer to, who I confide in, and who I go to when I need wisdom, understanding and truth about matters and decisions. Yes, that’s the kind of support that assures me that my wife has my back, and I know without a doubt that she believes in me, supports me, and she’s really and truly on my side!

Just some thoughts from a brotha who is so blessed and proud of his wife because she has been there since day-1; through the heartache, through the pain, through the shame that I caused, and yet, through the years her love continues to grow and continues to support me. I have no doubt, I know in my heart she’s on my side, and I’m grateful  and thankful for such a loving and caring wife. She sees me like God sees me-A Man of God! Just saying . . . .

“This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. But you have not so learned Christ, if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.” 

–  Ephesians 4:17-24

 

 

 

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My Daily Devotion – DON’T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 16, 2017

START YOUR DAY OFF WITH GOD’S WORD!

Today’s Reading: Matthew 20:1-16 . . . .

“For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire laborers for his vineyard. Now when he had agreed with the laborers for a denarius a day, he sent them into his vineyard. And he went out about the third hour and saw others standing idle in the marketplace, and said to them, ‘You also go into the vineyard, and whatever is right I will give you.’ So they went. Again he went out about the sixth and the ninth hour, and did likewise. And about the eleventh hour he went out and found others standing idle, and said to them, ‘Why have you been standing here idle all day?’ They said to him, ‘Because no one hired us.’ He said to them, ‘You also go into the vineyard, and whatever is right you will receive.’ “So when evening had come, the owner of the vineyard said to his steward, ‘Call the laborers and give them their wages, beginning with the last to the first.’ And when those came who were hired about the eleventh hour, they each received a denarius. But when the first came, they supposed that they would receive more; and they likewise received each a denarius. And when they had received it, they complained against the landowner, saying, ‘These last men have worked only one hour, and you made them equal to us who have borne the burden and the heat of the day.’ But he answered one of them and said, ‘Friend, I am doing you no wrong. Did you not agree with me for a denarius? Take what is yours and go your way. I wish to give to this last man the same as to you. Is it not lawful for me to do what I wish with my own things? Or is your eye evil because I am good?’ So the last will be first, and the first last. For many are called, but few chosen.”

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Recovery Quote For The Day!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 16, 2017

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My Daily Devotion – DON’T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 15, 2017

START YOUR DAY OFF WITH GOD’S WORD!

Today’s Reading: Mark 6:45-52 . . . .

“Immediately He made His disciples get into the boat and go before Him to the other side, to Bethsaida, while He sent the multitude away. And when He had sent them away, He departed to the mountain to pray. Now when evening came, the boat was in the middle of the sea; and He was alone on the land. Then He saw them straining at rowing, for the wind was against them. Now about the fourth watch of the night He came to them, walking on the sea, and would have passed them by. And when they saw Him walking on the sea, they supposed it was a ghost, and cried out; for they all saw Him and were troubled. But immediately He talked with them and said to them, “Be of good cheer! It is I; do not be afraid.” Then He went up into the boat to them, and the wind ceased. And they were greatly amazed in themselves beyond measure, and marveled. For they had not understood about the loaves, because their heart was hardened.”

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Recovery Quote For The Day!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 14, 2017

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My Daily Devotion – DON’T LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 14, 2017

START YOUR DAY OFF WITH GOD’S WORD!

Today’s Reading: John 14:1-11 . . . .

“Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father’s house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also. And where I go you know, and the way you know.” Thomas said to Him, “Lord, we do not know where You are going, and how can we know the way?” Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. If you had known Me, you would have known My Father also; and from now on you know Him and have seen Him.” Philip said to Him, “Lord, show us the Father, and it is sufficient for us.” Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you so long, and yet you have not known Me, Philip? He who has seen Me has seen the Father; so how can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? Do you not believe that I am in the Father, and the Father in Me? The words that I speak to you I do not speak on My own authority; but the Father who dwells in Me does the works. Believe Me that I am in the Father and the Father in Me, or else believe Me for the sake of the works themselves.”

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Today, I Will Trust God To . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 11, 2017

 

.  .  .  TO HELP ME GLORIFY YOU WITH THE GIFTS YOU’VE GIVEN ME.

Today, Heavenly Father God, help me lift up and glorify your name with all that you’ve blessed me with; You have given me talents, gifts, wisdom and understanding along with discernment-show O God how to use them affectively to draw others to you. Help me not be caught up in building up myself but edifying others so that they might know your Word, that they might come to relationship with you Father God and experience your love, grace and mercy like I have come to know you and even more so. Strengthen my desire to serve with gladness and a cheerful heart Lord God, that I might show myself diligent in drawing others to the kingdom of your light O God.

“For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith. For as we have many members in one body, but all the members do not have the same function, so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another. Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, let us prophesy in proportion to our faith; or ministry, let us use it in our ministering; he who teaches, in teaching; he who exhorts, in exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness.”  –  Romans  12:3-8 

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Recovery Quote of The Day!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 11, 2017

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