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New Year – Change our Thinking and It Will Be!

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 31, 2011


Here we go again. The start of new year. It’s that time when we look forward to new challenges and new beginnings. We say that, but do we really expect new beginnings? Are so complacent in our thinking that it has become a “tradition” or a “vow” to say this every year? Believe or not, it’s been like this for who knows how long. We build ourselves up in all the hype with the all the festivities, with all the bells and whistles, celebrating and bringing in the new year with a bang! We’ve all done it, including myself. And then after we bring in the new year, and all the hoopla has dwindled, we find ourselves right back in the same ol’ situation. Nothing’s changed! We’re still doing the same things. We still carry the same mentality and percepetions into the new year. Three or four months into the new year we wonder why we’re still in the same situation we’re in. Nothing’s changed! Our attitudes are still the same. How we go about handling our problems and dealing with life’s issues are still the same. Are we all just talk or are we just going through the formalities like everyone else, and blending in with the crowd? I can’t speak for everyone, but I’m tired of proclaiming things and not following through with what I speak. And it has a lot to do with what I think and how I’m thinking. That’s where it all starts!

I stopped celebrating New Year’s Eve like I used to because I realized I was just doing it to join the crowd. And all the hype about new year’s resolutions. I don’t remember when I actually completed a resolution. But I can tell you when I celbrated like everybody else did! Interesting perception when I’m trying to prioritize things. But that’s the society we live in. I’m not trying to make excuses for anyone but that’s where we are in life. And many of us choose to ignore it and deal with it the best we can. But it’s a choice, and that choice has responsibilities that accompany it, along with consequences.

But if really want or even desire to see a new year, we ought to desire to allow our thinking to change. When we change our thoughts and the way we think on things a newsness of life will evolve and will rid itself of the previous mentality of guessing and uncertainty. I’m not trying to preach or cause condemnation on anyone. I just want to share what God has done for my thought process and changed my perspectives on how I look at my life on a daily basis through His eyes and not my own.
I would like to begin this new year, 2012, on a note discussing when we can allow our thinking to be changed, our perspectives will change. I will follow-up this on New Year’s Day and discuss this in greater detail. I look forward to sharing with you on such an important topic that has affected so many of us in so many ways, that it has caused so much heartache and pain. My hope is that you will be enlightened in a positive, yet effective way of understanding. Be blessed, and I’ll greet you on Monday, January 1, 2012. Until then my friends, have a blessed, happy and safe New Years Day!

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Need Help with Denial: Submit to Being Mentored

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 26, 2011


Our Weekly Article of Encouragement Volume 1 Article 66

Need Help with Denial: Submit to Being Mentored

For the month of December 2011, we’ve had, and will conclude, an emphasis on denial and its impact on our lives. We’ve looked at how being overwhelmed with decisions, choices and responsibilities can affect our perception of how we see ourselves. We discussed how tired and frustrated we become when we’re sick and tired of being sick and tired of not facing denial. And then with the hope of discovering how we can come out of denial, we shared how if we really want to face denial it should start on our knees.
This week, our intention is to look at a real, viable and assured method that will help every man understand how he can acknowledge, confess, and repent from allowing denial continued influence in his life. That method is Mentoring.
When we look at mentoring, what comes to mind in most men is having someone over you, or talking to someone about your business or personal life. To many men that’s borderline into becoming involved in his life and daily activity, and we don’t really care to allow that to happen, especially in today world of fraud and irresponsibility. But I believe when we understand the right perspective of mentoring, and what a mentor’s responsibility is in your life, we will grasp this concept and desire it for what it is purposed to do. I’d like for us to look at three strategies of a mentor in one’s life:
an Influencer, Wise and Trusted Counselor, and a Strong Supporter.

An Influencer
As men, we’re influenced by those who we surround ourselves with. Many of these individuals can be co-workers, people who are in positions of authority, family, and even friends. How we allow these individuals to make an impact in and on our lives can have a direct reflection on how we look at life.
Growing up in Southern California during my young adult years was one fascinating experience for me. As a young man, single then, with a job, my own car, money in my pocket and no commitments to anyone, in So Cal, I thought I had it made. All of my friends were likeminded as well, and I thought wow, life is good as they said. My influence during that time was more selfish related than anything. It was all about what I wanted, when I wanted it, and where I chose to have it.
But that lasted only for a season. Those influences were negative at best. After finally realizing the direction I was traveling, something had to change. I wasn’t growing or getting better as a person or a man of God. I had to find people who wanted the very best for me in my life without having a hidden agenda (article #31) for personal gain on their behalf.
I shared that moment with you for the simple fact that having a person who’s an influencer will have a heart for the things you desire in life. He will share with you his personal adventures, as well as his victories and defeats, and let you make a determination upon your evaluation of his witness. Those that we surround ourselves with should be people who have made a difference in their own lives with their choices and decisions, not about what others have done for them. We can get caught up in this and that’s where many men miss the boat. I desire an influencer who is displaying permanent characteristics of obedience and wisdom toward helping others and want to see everyone succeed in life, not someone who wants to retract later with “Remember when I helped you out, well, I need the favor returned” type of attitude. An influencer will help make your choices and decisions stand on a foundation that can’t be shaken with compromise. His life is pure evidence of honesty and transparency, and those around him are being edified and progressing toward meeting all their goals in life.

Wise and Trusted Counselor
Looking for someone wise and trusting can be like trying to find a needle in a hay stack during a strong wind. But they are out there, but where?
When it comes to seeking out help or assistance we men already have a chip on our shoulders: “What I need help for. I’m a man. I should be able to handle my situations or problems.” That’s our perspective. Some of us feel if we show that we need help it’s a sign of weakness and vulnerability, and that is something we do not like.
But seeking out someone for guidance and wisdom is not as bad as we may think. Many of us automatically assume we need to come up with hundreds of dollars for the kind of advice and instruction we need to get some answers for life. That is not the case.
When I began seeking out someone for guidance and understanding about life, and the direction I wanted to go, I wasn’t trying to find someone who was wealthy and had it going on. I wasn’t seeking out that person who lived successfully and had possessions of notoriety and fame. Nope! I went seeking for someone who I believed was humble, sincere, and had a track record of leading others in the direction they wanted to go with positive results. In my life, I wanted someone that had these attributes and that he could give me counsel regarding the things I was doing, whether they were bad or good. The first thing I did was ask God to lead me, and show me the person or person that He desires for me for counsel and guidance. He showed me that I have that right in my home church. I talked with various ministers and observed their lives as they lived. I wanted to have someone guiding me with a generous heart and rooted in the Word of God. I found him and them.

A wise man will hear and increase learning, And a man of understanding will attain wise counsel.” Proverbs 1:5
I have several people in my life that are speaking in and over my life with wisdom and counsel regarding every area of my life. I agreed with these men to place myself under their leadership and guidance for understanding life and spiritual matters. This counsel has been wonderful for me and has not failed meat all. I’ve grown to trust my counsel with all diligence and submission. I needed this in my life. It has helped me understand to not allow myself to hide my faults, be ashamed and feeling guilty about the things I’ve done in life, that I can overcome all things with God’s guidance through those whom He has placed in my life. These individuals have poured into me wisdom and instruction that has enabled me to move forward in every area of my life. This guidance and wisdom is invaluable, and it didn’t cost me anything but sitting down and recognizing what it is I truly need.

A Strong Supporter
Now that I have the influencer(s) and the wise counselor(s) and teacher(s), I needed the support to continue in these. Not only has these individuals been there in times of need and guidance they’ve been there to support me through it all. It’s one thing to say to others “It’s going to be alright, just pray.” Or “I’m praying for you” and walk away. But when you have those who are willing to walk along side of you in support of what you’re trying to accomplish, it makes all the difference in the world. That type of support compels you to strive forward with vigor and resilience to reach your destinations.
As I travel along my journey in life, I seek after my support by being honest in my intentions. I don’t misrepresent or deny any plans for advancement by deceiving those who support me. The support that I have, individuals who have gained my trust, continue to strengthen me by encouraging me in everything I do. They continuously desire updates and any change in direction that might occur in time of choice or decision. How did I get that support? By showing those whose trust I have earned, that my every intention was not self-driven; that it wasn’t all about me; and that I was willing to adhere to their counsel, wisdom and understanding. I had to be willing to get outside myself and take heed to those who have been there, and have had success in the direction in which I’m choosing to travel.
With these three strategies working together, cooperating in one accord, this will open our hearts to rid ourselves of any type of struggle with denial. This will cause us to deny ourselves, and seek after guidance that introduces us to truth and honesty. And that truth is Jesus Christ! In His Word He tells us . . .

“Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” John 14:6
Mentoring will strengthen character and integrity flaws, giving us as men courage and boldness to step out of denial, and be who we are created to be: Men of God created to glorify the Holy One, Jesus Christ!
So, I want to encourage all men to consider being mentored, if you have not considered at all. It will only make you a stronger man of integrity, and the relationships that you will develop will be everlasting and a light unto others who desire the same thing as you have. Be that light to someone, as someone was a light to you, and keep the light shining so that men may your works, that the Father in Heaven may be glorified!

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Our Sincere Thanks to You!

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 24, 2011


We, of Men of Redemption, would like to take this moment in time and say thank you to all of our readers out there in cyberworld. We really appreciate all of taking your time out of busy schedules, as well as personal time, to read our articles. We are truly blessed that they have touched or spoken to an area of your lives. This was, and currently remains our primary intent, to bring light to others by way of our articles and all resources that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ provides. We know you don’t have to, but we are grateful that you did.
So again, thank you so very much for your comments and viewing our material. Men of Redemption will continue to pray for everyone that God’s wonderful love and mercy be manifested in your life today!

Thank You One & All!

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Giving Back to the Giver This Holiday Season

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 23, 2011


This time of year we celebrate with family and friends about what giving truly means to us. We go out of our way purposely to “give” unto others to show our appreciation for them in our lives. Others “give” because of the season; a time to show our respects and love for one another. But are we really celebrating “The Gift” that gave, and still gives?
When was the last time, no, the first time, we finally realized what Christmas was all about and discovered the Giver never gets anything for Christmas? We’ll go to malls and shopping centers, wait in lines from the very early part of the morning to get what appeals to our interests, and not be frustrated or disappointed as long we get what we wanted from that particular store. We’ll drive around all areas of town looking, searching, seeking, trying find that something to buy for that “deserving” someone. It seems like during this time of the year we’ll do just about anything to beat someone else to a store, for the latest new invention, or just being the one who can “give” something to someone first. What about the “Giver?”
Maybe, just once this decade, could we spend a Christmas holiday season giving to the “Giver,” Jesus Christ Himself, by helping others with their holidays? Some of us are doing that, and that’s wonderful, and a blessing to others. But if we as children of the most High God would extend ourselves a little more and touch the less fortunate through our giving to orphanages, homeless shelters, single moms and widows, I truly believe it would put a smile on a face that doesn’t know how to smile. It would put joy where there was never joy.
Please don’t get me wrong, or misinterpret what I’m trying to say. I know there are those of you out there that are doing this very thing, but the more of us that are doing it the bigger impact we can make on our society, let alone our very own communities. It doesn’t have to be financial all the time, but it does help. How about helping out for an hour here or there; how about giving some time to just talking with those who just need someone to talk to; sacrificing a meal and giving it to someone who hasn’t had a meal in days; something to bring joy, a smile, tears of happiness for someone whose been crying tears of sadness.
I’m not trying to bring an unhealthy perspective to a joyous season, but my heart aches with disappointment as to why I can’t do more for others. If I want change I know it starts with me. The Giver is saddened because His people aren’t doing what He asks. And if He is sad, then I am sad.
People of God, let’s heed the word of our Father voice and do what He asks of us. If you’re not, it’s never too late to start. Those of you who are doing it, praise God, and I applaude you for your obedience.
This holiday season, let’s give to someone or something that has never had anything. Maybe, just maybe, salvation is close by. Be blessed everyone, and have a Very, Merry Christmas. (M.O.R)

“Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world.” James 1:27

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Coming Out of Denial Begins on Your Knees

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 19, 2011

Our Weekly Article of Encouragement Volume 1 Article 65

One of the most humbling confessions for a man to have is admitting that he has a problem. Most men don’t want to admit that a character flaw has infiltrated his being, and does everything he can to try and hide it. A majority of men attempt to handle it themselves and the flaw eventually ends up being exposed by his lack of control or through behavior deficiencies. In his heart he knows he has a problem, and wants to come clean and be real about the truth, but fear and passivity has taken a hold of his identity. He doesn’t want to, or desire to, admit anything because of being vulnerable to criticism, rebuke or exposure. His problem will show everyone his flaws and that makes a man feel less than who he tries to be in life. This kind of thinking and lack of understanding will only hinder a man in going forward in life when he refuses to deal with denial, as well as establishing honesty and transparency with others. As I am learning daily about being honest and transparent, I believe that three disciplines are essential in coming out of denial and being able to move forward in life with any type of success: Acknowledgement, Confession, and Repentance. Without these disciplines it will be very difficult for any man, regardless of his occupation or status, what he has or what his problem or problems may be, he will continue to struggle until he comes and face each of these wholeheartedly.

Acknowledgement

The first discipline most men will not accept when dealing with their issues or denial is acknowledging that they really do have a problem.
I remember when my life was dominated by addictive behaviors and the turmoil that I caused with my life and choices. I didn’t want to admit it because I knew if I did, those around me would have a different perspective of who I am. During that time of my life I presented myself as a good, “God-fearing” man who appeared to be successful in everything I was doing. But as my issues began to expose themselves, people began to see me as for who I really was; someone who wanted to be right but wasn’t genuine in heart.
There were flaws in my character that lead people to question my intent, my integrity,
and my purpose for doing what I was doing. That didn’t set to well with me when I found out what everyone had observed. It made me feel ashamed and guilty. I wanted to tell the truth but I had done it for so long that I thought “Who would believe me if I started telling the truth?” But as the issues became more prevalent, I began to feel conviction, and I didn’t want to pretend anymore. I came to a crisis of truth in my life, and acknowledged that I did in fact have a problem, or in my case, problems. My first response to acknowledging my problems, as would any man, was how do I deal with this and make it right? That was my first thought, but little did I know this acknowledgement involved quite bit more than I assumed. It involved Confession.

Confession

It was one thing to acknowledge my issues, but to confess them? I wasn’t thinking about that because I figured if I acknowledged my issues, wasn’t that enough? I mean what more do I need to do if I already admitted them! Much more than I ever thought, if I wanted to do the right thing. Even a man of God with issues, I never thought I would be in good standing with God when I had all this “mess” within me, but I was totally wrong. Despite being ensnared, I still went to the Word of God and He showed me that confession is what I needed to do . . . .

“For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” Romans 10: 10, 11

Confession was a way of calling on the Lord and admitting that I am wrong in what I was doing with my life, and that I need a Savior to guide me. I couldn’t go on like I was. I had to stop in my tracks and make confession to God. This opened my eyes to truth in that if I claim to be a believer of Christ, then confession is part of salvation unto righteousness. I wanted to be made right in God’s sight, and confession did that for me. I had to understand that despite what I’ve done God still loves me, and will do what He must do to get my attention because of that love. He’s promised to all those that He loves . . . .

“For whom the LORD loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.” Hebrews 12:6

Confession had allowed me to begin the process of moving forward in life without the shame and guilt associated with denial. I felt a sense of joy and freedom, but it still didn’t stop there. Repentance was my next discipline.

Repentance

Okay. I acknowledged. I confessed. Now, it was time to repent and escape denial. When I admitted my issues and denial I realized something had to change in what I was doing in my life. Denial had such a stronghold on me, and it caused so much confusion in my thought life. I had to release that addictive thinking and turn to something that was going to lead me in the direction that God wanted me to go. This was where repentance manifested itself in my life. Repentance, meaning turning “from” something and turning “toward” something new, gave me revelation of a whole new perspective.

Acknowledgement and confession showed me that I needed to give my whole heart and soul to God. But I needed to learn how to do that. I began by recommitting my life to trusting God totally in every area. I turned from hanging out with people who didn’t have my best interest at heart, to people who desired the things of God in my life. I began to speak with sincerity and hope in and over my life. I started being more open and honest with my thoughts, my heart, and allowing people to see me for whom I really am: a Man of God! Despite how I was feeling, whether I was angry or sad; weeping or discouraged. I had to realize that I am a man with frailties and that God is there to provide comfort and guidance in those times. His Word assures me . . . .

“Now, therefore,” says the LORD, “Turn to Me with all your heart, with fasting, with weeping, and with mourning.” Joel 2:12

These days, I’m free from denial. I thank God Almighty, which His love and grace has transformed me into the man I am today. Yeah, it didn’t happen over night, or in a few weeks or months. This was, and is, a process as well as a journey, that I am truly enjoying because of His love for me. I’m surrounded by men of God who encourage me, who pray for me and my family daily, who have vowed and committed themselves to strengthen me with accountability, never allowing me to isolate myself in denial ever again. There is no room in my life for denial or pretense. That enemy has been defeated in my life and in my family’s life. There will be no generational curses of denial in my legacy, in Jesus’ Name! Honesty, transparency and consistency are three of my best friends, and they shall live in me always.

I know there are men out there who are struggling with this very same problem: denial, and what to do about it. I know where you’re at. I’ve been there. I’ve cried and isolated myself from reality because I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t have any buddies I thought I could turn to because they were just as much in denial as I was.
But there is hope my friends. I made a conscious decision and said “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired” (last week’s article, Dec. 12), trusted God and took Him at His Word, acknowledged, confessed, and repented. My life hasn’t been the same since, and I am forever grateful and thankful for His goodness and mercy.
I encourage you men who are struggling, stop where you are in life. Cry out unto the Lord, and He will hear you! He wants to hear from you! He wants you free from denial, and any other issues that may be plaguing your life, your marriage or your family. Seek out help if you need it, and don’t try to do it on your own. You’ve probably tried and haven’t had any success. Reach out. Don’t allow passivity and shame to reign in your life. You deserve freedom because that’s what God desires in you and for you. And remember, if anything at all regarding any issues of life . . . .

“Whom the Son has set free, is free indeed.” John 8:36

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Coming Soon in 2012!

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 13, 2011


We at Men of Redemption are grateful and thankful for all of the support we have received from all of you who observed our blog. Our message is, and always will be, to provide a way of support and guidance to men, women and marriages all around the world in the areas of struggle with addictive behaviors and immorality.
We are not a paid service or work for any corporation to sponsor any product. We are a ministry composed of men who have struggled in these areas and are seeking out God’s Wisdom and instruction from His Word for a better way of life.
Many of you have replied to our articles with amazing feedback and support, and because of your request for more articles on our topics, beginning in January 2012 we will be including more topical articles relating to our purpose and vision.
So we thank you all again for you wonderful comments and support, and we continue to pray for you as God enables us to reach out and be a blessing to others. We’re excited, and we’re hoping and praying you will be too!

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” 2 Cor. 5:17

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Are You Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired?

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 12, 2011

Are You Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired? one-day-you-will-be-tired-of-being-sick-and-tired-on-that-day

I remember not too long ago when I was going through my seasons of confusion and addictive behavior I began to hate what I was doing. I knew what I was doing was wrong but still continued therein. My behavior wasn’t helping anybody but myself, and that help was self-serving to say the least. I remember people saying to me . . . “Is that all you think about is yourself?” I didn’t care. I wouldn’t listen to the voices of reason because I thought I knew what was best for me. But deep within myself I had admitted “I can’t keep doing what I’m doing. I hate these desires of lust and immoral behavior. I’m sick and tired of it!” The battle within me raged on for years. I was in denial and didn’t want to face reality because basically, I really didn’t know how to. There was a sense of fear of those around me knowing what I was doing would not accept me for who I really was. I believed people were like me; only cared about themselves and no one else. So I continued in isolation and kept on doing what I was doing. Then the behavior increased, and the stakes became even more dangerous. I didn’t want to go down that road because having my eyes open to just see where the end would take was frightening. I came to a crisis of truth and said to myself “I’m tired of this mess. I’m sick of this! I’ve got to stop living like this before I end up in jail or dead. I’m so sick of this!” My erratic behavior affected my marriage and family life for all the wrong reasons. Change was needed and needed fast. This is when I realized something had to change. I got face-down on my knees and asked God to help me. After taking a step of faith and trusting God, and the full participation of a strong supportive wife and daughters coming along side of me, we were able to move in the direction of totally being set free. It was difficult but if I was really sick and tired of my “mess” I would be willing to do whatever it took to reach that goal of being free from the strongholds of this life. I was, and, with everything in my being moved forward in that direction. The rest my friends, is a testimony of victory, fulfillment of joy and peace.
During that time I never really “enjoyed” what I was doing. It was all a façade to give the appearance of being successful. Deep inside my heart I always wanted to do what was right, but when I wasn’t having the success I truly desired, I remained in denial of my true feelings and ambitions. It was years before anyone ever knew my heart and what I was really about. But I was sick and tired of that life and made a conscious decision to get the help I needed because I wanted it for me, and then for my marriage and family. With the help of my wife, the strong encourager that she is, we came together and sought out the help and support that was needed. We found it, and I began to apply it to my life.
I joined a support group that really influenced my life with truth, and that truth was in the Word of God. And one of the books that helped me understand what I was going through was Psalm. In Psalm 51:1-3 it showed me that . . .

“Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Your loving kindness; according to the multitude of Your tender mercies, blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin. For I acknowledge my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.”

The sin of my behavior and the denial of that sin were reigning in my life more than God was. My iniquity and transgressions were more prevalent during that time. I had to stop in my life and confess, accept responsibility for my sin, and ask God for His forgiveness. That’s when my life began to change and proceed in the right direction because now, my steps were being ordered of the Lord (Psalm 37:23).

Every man who has dealt with these and other traumatic symptoms rooted in sin will eventually get to the point where he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. If you haven’t reached that point yet, you will, trust me! And as long as you remain in denial, believing you can handle it, that you have it under control, you’re only fooling yourself my friend. I learned that Ephesians 6:12 tells me that . . .

“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.”

In understanding this verse more commonly, this is a spiritual battle that you, me, or anyone else can’t win. We need the divine intervention of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! He is the only answer to these and other problems that influence our lives to depend on worldly living. If we continue to live our lives based on what everyone else is telling us, no matter how intelligent they may appear, we are only deceiving ourselves. As men of God who have serious problems, we need to come back to our first love, Jesus Christ. Stop being sick and tired of being sick and tired, and make a conscious decision and do something about it! Step out of that denial stage in your life and seek help immediately. Further delays will only deepen you struggles to depths you won’t be able to escape out of.
If you are struggling, desperately, and desire help, but denial has you ensnared, contact me and Men of Redemption would love to help, guide and walk along the journey of recovery with you. You can reach us at http://www.menofredemption040709@hotmail.com.
Be blessed, take a step of faith, and quit being sick and tired of being sick and tired. Help is here if you really want it. I pray that you do my friends.

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Does Denial Have a Hold on You? Be Real!

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 9, 2011


Are we so worried and concerned about what people may think of us if we say that we have issues? Do we feel ashamed and embarrassed about who we are and what we’ve done? Most people are, and that insensitivity, or denial, is what is destroying many lives in our world today. We seem to can’t come to the real heart of the matter and admit, or confess, that “Yes, I do have a problem.” That’s the hard part, confessing it, and accepting responsibility for it. Denying the truth will only lead to lies and more lies. Once you start you’ll never stop. And once lies are birthed and rooted in your life’s foundation of growing up, it springs into fruits of despair and isolation, never opening up the true person who you really are. Why do we fall into this deceitful trap? Fear, intimidation of others, low self-esteem, are just a few of the symptoms of denial.
Transparency and honesty can defuse denial for what its worth: the lie that it is. When we began to be honest with ourselves, our feelings and thoughts, we become free to express ourselves for who we really are inside. That honesty starts with the heart. What we fill our hearts with will eventually show what’s inside of us.

“A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks. Luke 6:45

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Overwhelmed? He’s Right There

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 5, 2011


Weekly Article of Encouragement Article 63 Volume I

Overwhelmed? He’s Right There

Sometimes life and its demands can become so overwhelming that it’s feels like you’re drowning. The responsibilities of being a father, a husband, the spiritual leader of my home, and everything that comes with each of those. Don’t get me wrong, I volunteered and accepted those responsibilities by choice. And counting the costs of each required more than I could’ve imagined. I’m not complaining, I’m just being real. It’s reality. As a man, it gets like this on occasion, and even daily with some men.

As I have progressed in my recovery acknowledging my inefficiencies and shortcomings, I find myself realizing that life can be a challenge, as well as confusing. God has given me a plan and a purpose for my life and I intend to carry out that declaration with all my being. But along the way the journey has brought change, some difficulties of understanding, and pressures of meeting expectations. They are all beneficial to completing the tasks before me and I gladly receive them. But sometimes it’s overwhelming, and I have to admit that.
Change has probably been the biggest influence during this process. After living a life of selfishness and egotistical thinking in my early adult years, I realized that change was inevitable. I couldn’t go on living a life of “it’s all about me” and be able to take care of a family and all that comes with it. Something had to happen and it had to happen fast. During my Bible studies I learned that in order for change to take place there had to be a renewing of the mind. My thinking and the direction I was going had to be influenced by something greater than myself. Roman 12:1, 2 says . . .

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

That renewing process began when I started allowing God to fill my mind and heart with His word, seeking His guidance and wisdom in all things, and that included every area of my life. I had to let go of worldly principles and traditional values that lead me to the life I was leading at that time. It was strange, and difficult, but it worked for me. My thoughts became pure and dependent upon Him. I could not lean unto my own understanding anymore. That process opened up a part of my life that became a blessing to my family, my marriage, as well as to others in my circle of friends.
The difficulties of understanding were an eye opener. After experiencing the process of renewing my mind, I observed that trying to understand why these changes are happening was strange. I begin to see things from God’s perspective. I didn’t see what was in it for me like I used to. I started to see people, my family, and my marriage as God sees them. I had a transformation that gave me an anointing from God to have compassion for others. It wasn’t about me anymore. The selfishness is gone. It’s about people now. The Spirit of God in me was operating now like it should’ve been in the beginning. I was filled with His Spirit, and He gave me wisdom to make sound decisions with unwavering knowledge and truth (Exodus 31:3). Now, I began to understand why God allowed certain things to happen in my life; so that I may learn that I need to depend upon Him for guidance and His understanding.
Now, with these changes and understanding, I needed to gain some peace in dealing with the pressures of meeting expectations. I wanted so much to show how God had brought clarity into my life, and I wanted everyone to see it. But I quickly learned that there was nothing I could do to make this happen: it had to be God to complete this manifestation. God showed me that what I needed to do was continue to seek Him and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33), and all these things (peace, understanding, display of obedience) will be added unto me. He’ll do the rest, just depend on Him, he said. After what He had already done in me to that point, how I not do as He asks. I trusted Him. And now, daily, in every area of my life I depend upon Him, my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for complete dependence on His word and divine assurance in all things. My life is has taken a turn for the better these days.
So all the overwhelming demands of life in every area of my life are not so demanding these days. I’ve learned to accept the things that are before me and trust God to provide peace and understanding through it all. I’ve counted the costs, and still count them today because I see it as another blessed opportunity to allow God to get the glory in what I do in this life. When I feel like it’s overwhelming, I go and get into His presence and cry out to Him, and He refreshes my soul. He lifts the burdens and pressures, and gives me peace through it all. I’m blessed to have a God that loves me so. He fulfills my every need all the time. He has never left me nor forsaken me. I am forever grateful to You Jesus! You are my strong tower, my fortress, my refuge, in You will I trust.

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Knowing How Big Our God Is

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 3, 2011


How big is God in your life? Is He delegated to the size of your problems, and you only call on Him when you need Him? Why do we compartmentalized the Lord and only call Him when times are rough or when we can’t contain our problems or issues ourselves?
Christian men, we need to see our Lord and Savior as omnipresent(God is everywhere) and omnipotent(all-knowing). God has everything in this universe in the palm of His hand. There’s nothing that He can’t do or understand. He created everything! And when we fail to grasp that fact we limit His ability to operate in our lives. No matter what we go through in this life He is always there and knows every situation and it’s outcome. He desires us to just trust Him and do what He asks us. He is Lord of all. That includes the lost, the saved, the hurting, the abandoned, the orphan, the widowed and the sinner. He is Lord of all! If we call Him Lord, then we must do what He says in His Word. Let’s not call Him Lord and compartmentalized Him in our minds and hearts until we need Him. Think about what His Word says about this . . .
“But why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do the things which I say? Whoever comes to Me, and hears My sayings and does them, I will show you whom he is like: He is like a man building a house, who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, and could not shake it, for it was founded on the rock. But he who heard and did nothing is like a man who built a house on the earth without a foundation, against which the stream beat vehemently; and immediately it fell. And the ruin of that house was great.” Luke 6:46-49

So take a few moments and consider where God is in your life. Is He Lord of your life in all areas? Or, is He someone is who is in your address book and you call Him when you need Him? If we want the blessing of knowing our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, pick up His Word (The Bible), ask Him to reveal Himself to you and develop a relationship with Him. He loves you more than you’ll ever know. And He wants the very best for you in this life. That’s one of the reason why He came back – to give us life, and that more abundant. Take Him out of your pocket, out of your address book, and put Him in your heart.

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