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Trusting God’s Word Builds Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 31, 2012

As we rejoice in this last day of the month of January 2012, we can truly say we are thankful for all that God has done for us to this point. He has blessed us beyond measure. We have life. We have our families. We have health and strength. Most of all, we have the Savior, Jesus Christ, to thank and to glorify. When we hide His Word in our hearts that shows Him that we love and adore Him, trusting in His Word. This, my friends, builds tremendous character in all of us. God sees the obedience in His creation, us, and our desire to live for Him, which is why He created us in the first place to glorify Him.
When we begin to trust God’s Word, He speaks to us through His Word. He gives us instruction. He gives us direction. The Word of God comes alive right from the very pages of the Bible. His Word is true. His Word never fails. He cannot lie. I could go on and on. But trusting God’s Word is a way of life. It’s our road map of life. When we take God at His Word He assures us of abundant life with peace, with joy, with comfort in Him in all things in life. He is our provider. He is all things to us. We would never that unless pick up His Word, read and study His Word, and apply what His Word teaches to our lives. Then we will see the manifestations of the fruits of His Spirit enacted into our lives. What a joy it is to experience this!

Are you trusting God’s Word for all things in your life? It’s a question we all need to ask ourselves. If we ever start to wonder why things are going in the direction that they are, it will always come down to the Christian man or woman, “Where is God in all that I’m doing?” I can tell you, He’s right there. He’s never left us nor forsaken us. Trust Him today in and for all things, and allow your relationship to grow to strengthen your character like God intended for you from the beginning. Be blessed my friends!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-7


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Overcoming Comes With A Cost

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 30, 2012

Our Weekly Article of Encouragement Article 71 Volume 2

Overcoming Comes With A Cost!

As I look back over my life, all the disappointments and lack of disciplines I had in my life from making bad choices and decisions I realized that I had grown up over the last several years. I mean, these were choices and decisions that brought shame and guilt to my circle of influence, my family and friends as well as my perspective on my future. But as I grew into a better and greater relationship with God, those choices and decisions became more concise with stronger conviction where I was more aware of what I was doing. Growing in the things of God has given me more clarity and understanding in all things where now I am seeking Him first before coming to any conclusion to the matter. In order for me to get to this level of understanding in God I had to understand that I needed to let go of some things in my life and cling to God for everything. I want to share with you three things that I released to God, and was set free from that has enabled me to move forward with my life: Self, Passivity, and Denial.

For years I thought it was all about me. I didn’t really care about the opinions of others because they interfered with my goals and aspirations. I wanted to be successful in everything I was doing. Sure that’s everybody’s desire but I wanted success no matter what it would cost me. I wasn’t desperate, just a tad bit over-confident. Okay, way over-confident, but I was determined to get there no matter what. I trusted my own instincts and perceptions but little did I realize that I was also influenced by behaviors that lead to unbelievable consequences. My thinking was so self-centered that everything I attempted to do resulted in negative responses. It was overwhelming and frankly scared me to death! At that point I needed help, and I needed it fast. I didn’t know where to turn so I just stay where I was at until something happened that was better than what I was going through at the time. Wrong decision! I was about to lose everything and the crisis of truth hit: Get help now or your next destination could be prison or death. I reached out to the few trusted people I knew and there they were, waiting for me with open arms of prodigal love for this wayward son. I had to come out myself and into the light that God had originally designed for my life. After going through spiritual battles, healing and transformation, God had brought a sense of restoration back into my life with a new perspective and desire for Him, and Him alone. He removed from me that selfishness, that egotistical attitude of self-righteousness and guided me unto real truth in who really matters: Jesus Christ. He showed me that I can not lean unto my own understanding and to trust Him in all things.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;

In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and depart from evil.” Proverbs 3:5-7

Even through all of that selfishness and self-righteousness you’d think I was a little bold in my reaction to everything I was doing. Not! In fact, I was just the opposite. Most of my straight-forwardness was conducted from a distance because of fear and embarrassment. I didn’t want to be perceived as weak or vulnerable. And if things didn’t go as planned I would just accept it as it happened and moved on to the next assignment. I left a lot of tasks in my life back then unresolved and never really going back to straighten them out. I didn’t have the heart to keep going in my brash thinking and therefore “weaseled” out most of the time. This, my friends is what passivity will do to you. My self-esteem had a shot in the arm and I had never recovered from it until several years ago when I attended an all-men’s conference in San Juan Capistrano, California back in 2000. That conference helped me identify passivity, and its effects on men and how we can overcome passivity with the help of our Lord Jesus Christ. I no longer subject myself to being passive where I need to stand up and be counted for. I’m bold in the things of God and all that pertain to me and my family. God has strengthened my heart and character to a point where I speak boldly and live life with purpose in front of those whom I used to allow to run over me. I am truly thankful to God for removing passivity from my life.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Philippians 4:13

After realizing all that I was going through with the previous two character defects, God showed me what I needed to acknowledge: the denial that was in my heart. I never believed that I had a problems or problems in my life until God showed me my heart. I didn’t like what I saw. I saw self-pity, a life that was consumed with arrogance and deception that dominated most of my young adult life with reckless abandon. It was like I was looking in the mirror at a guy whose life was just in shambles and denied everything because he always thought he could come up out of it. That was an understatement. But thanks to God’s grace and mercy for my life, He allowed me to confront my denial, acknowledge it, repent of my iniquity and transgressions, and begin the process of moving forward in my life. God showed me that He cares enough for me to not allow me to go down that road anymore. No longer do I walk through the valleys and pits of life alone in denial. I’m trusting God Almighty for everything that pertains to me. I’m not in fear of life or my circumstances. God is there for me. And I will trust Him always, through it all

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4

Because of what God has done in my life with these character defects, and they are no longer a part of my life, I have overcome them and they never will return. I have been set free from that mess. I’m alive in Christ! I know who I am, and Whose I am!
How about you? Are you struggling with these or similar issues that are preventing you from moving forward with your life? God desires to do the same for you as He has done for me. He wants us to walk freely in the blessings that are rightfully ours. You don’t have to keep going in the direction you’re traveling right now. Begin to seek God, and His righteousness, and He will see you through all the way. Overcoming the defects of life is going to cost you something. What are you willing to give up in your life? It’s a choice, your choice, and no one else’s. Make that decision today friends. Be blessed!

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Prayer Builds Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 30, 2012

Do you ever think about prayer and it’s impact on our lives and those around us? We’ve heard many a times in churches, Bible studies, fellowships and even some places where we least likely expect to heart about prayer. But prayer is our greatest gift from God other than His Son, Jesus Christ. Prayer strengthens and encourages us to believe God and His promises in all things. Prayer makes us stronger and more dependable upon God because this is the way we communicate with God. When we pray, we are saying to God “Lord, I acknowledge You because You are the Almighty God, the Creator of all living things and I believe you will hear my petitions and requests.” Prayer brings comfort and peace during those times of turmoil and discouragement, indecision and confusion. But prayer also builds character will we pray for others. Having a passion to lift others up in their times of need and healing enables us to depend on God for victory over circumstances in our lives. Praying over our families, our wives and children, our jobs and careers, our church, and everything that we are a part of. God wants, and desires to be a part of every facet of our lives and the way we do that is take time out daily and pray to the Father. Some of us may say “I don’t really know how to pray” but don’t allow that to be the reason for not praying. Here’s a good way to start. Go to Matthew 6:8-10 and start to recite the Lord’s Prayer. This will enhance your ability to begin praying to God. After a while, and before you know it, you’ll be praying like it’s a part of your regular daily routine. If we say we talk to God, then this is the way He desires to hear from us, through prayer and supplication. Strengthen your prayer life today.

“After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.”

Matthew 6:8-13

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Daily Devotional Builds Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 27, 2012

“A child of God should never leave his bedroom in the morning without being on good terms with God.”

C. H. Spurgeon

Every morning that God allows us to wake up, we should be thankful and grateful for His mercies because they are new every morning. He gives us strength and ability in our bodies and keeps us in our right mind. When we allow the disciplines of God to be manifested in our lives God is very happy with our obedience because it let’s Him know that He is first in our lives. Spending time with God before we proceed into the very day that He has blessed for us to enjoy builds tremendous character in our being because it puts our priorities in perspective. Making God first sends a strong message to our wives and family, as well as others in our lives. Having daily devotion time with God increases our awareness of what God wants to do in us and through us for the day. Some of you might say you don’t have the time, or my schedule doesn’t permit me to take time out for devotional time. Others may say I’ll get my time in during the day with God. But it’s not about “getting”your time in with God, it’s about giving Him the first fruits of your day, your life, and everything that He has blessed you with. And one of the most precious gifts besides life that God has given us is TIME!. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us, so when we do have the opportunity to spend time with Him we ought to jump at that opportunity. We don’t know what our day will entail for us. But whatever it has in store for us, if we make time for God before we leave our home, and ask for His blessing over our daily activities we can be assured of His love, grace and protection throughout it.
Try beginning the day that God has blessed you with spending a few minutes with Him. Here’s an interesting note to consider: Each day has 1,440 minutes. Surely we can give God a few of them. Remember, they all belong to Him anyway! Be blessed my friends!

“Teach me Your way, O Lord; I will walk in Your truth; Unite my heart to fear Your name.”
Psalm 86:11

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye.
Psalm 32:8

“Happy is the man who finds wisdom, And the man who gains understanding.”
Proverbs 3:13

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Controlling Your Temper Builds Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 26, 2012

“Anger breeds remorse in the heart, discord in n the home,bitterness in the community, and confusion in the state.”

Billy Graham

Controlling our temper can be a difficult task for some of us. Having to deal with everyday life and all the trials and tribulations that come with it. How we deal with controlling our temper and anger determines the success we’ll have in many of our life’s dilemmas. This will in turn strengthen and build our character, and develop a peace within ourselves to handle every situation with proper understanding. Daily we get overworked, overstressed, overheated and over-anxious because of the challenges we face.

When we get angry We are defeating ourselves. The consequences of that anger wash right off onto the very ones that are the most important to us: our wives, our families, and God. And we are doing more harm to ourselves than the thing that got us angry in the first place. If what we are doing is setting us off to anger maybe we should take a few moments and really decide is this really worth it? Am I willing to allow anger to get the best of me and affect the people I don’t want to hurt with my uncontrolled emotions? Let’s really take a serious look at what’s around us and be real with ourselves. Who really benefits from our uncontrolled temper? It’s not a win-win situation for anyone. When we learn to control our temper we become a person of peace and well-doing. We understand that anger has no place in our day, our lives or anywhere where God’s children are concern. Controlling our temper will make us relax, get in the right mindset, and hear what is right.

“So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”

James 1:19, 20

So let’s not allow anger or frustration to interfere with our daily lives because we have too much at stake to give it place in our lives. We don’t want to take anger home with us because it will cause even more harm to those we love. When we feel ourselves getting to the point of our tempers being challenged try this one thing: stop, recognize what you are about to react to, and say “God, take control of temper and bring me to understand that You are in control of my life. Bring peace to this situation by Your Spirit!” You might be surprised at what God will do in the heated moments of our lives. Be blessed!

“Anger is the fluid that love bleeds when you cut it.”

C. S. Lewis

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Getting to Know God Builds Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 25, 2012

“We can seek God and find Him! God is knowable, touchable, hearable, seeable, with the mind, the hands, the ears, and the eyes of the inner man.”

A. W. Tozer

Through all of life’s situations, problems and struggles, did you ever wonder if God is really there? Looking at times where you were so desperate and confused, wondering and asking yourself, “God, if you’re really there, change this situation!” Or you might be as bold to say “God, where are you? Why is this happening to me?” I believe in some cases we’ve all been there many a times. But one of the good things about God is He’s always been there. He’s as close to us as our next breath! When we take time out to know God we begin to understand our Creator, His love for us and what He wants for our lives. Getting to know God edifies our character and enables us to seek after Him with our whole heart. God wants us to know Him. This is why He gave us His Word, the Bible, to learn about who He is, to learn about His desire for His creation, us!
When we read and study the Bible, we connect with God on levels we naturally couldn’t understand. Studying His Word brings wisdom and confidence to our daily lives, giving us a relationship with Him that cannot compare to any other relationship. God watches over us every moment of our lives. But He does desire, and expect His creation, His children, through obedience to Him, to seek after Him and know Him in every way. Knowing God will strengthen our family foundations, provide wisdom and guidance in being the man or woman of God He has called us to be. But with all that, and more, God desires to be in relationship with us. He loves us so much! He loves us so much that He gave His only Son, Jesus Christ, as a sacrifice to prove His love for us.
Are you spending time getting to know God? If you proclaim to be a child of the Living God, Jesus Christ, getting to know God should be our first and foremost priority. Take time out today and spend it learning about God and what He wants from us. He has a plan for every one of us and He promises to see us through it to the very end. He will never leave us nor forsake us. He’s right there. Always! And we will benefit from this obedience abundantly! Be blessed!

“Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10

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Humility Will Build Our Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 24, 2012

“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.”
1 Peter 5:6

We all like the accomplishments we make in life. We’re very proud of the work we done to make it happen. Most of us look at how we made it over, the hard work involved to get where we are today. That’s commendable as well as honorable. But sometimes we can look at all the accomplishments in a selfish manner and think it’s all about us. “Look at me, see what I what did!” We portray to others, and our families, that we’re responsible for all the good things that happen to us. Our chests are stuck out far and wide, displaying a sense of worthiness and pride. But is that really the story? Whatever happened to humility?

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” Rick Warren

It seems that humility is a forgotten attribute and blessing from God. When we learn to humble ourselves we understand that everything we do in life is because of God’s grace upon us. Because of His death on the cross, the shedding of His blood, and the raising from the dead, He has given us the blessed opportunity to have life, and that more abundant. We should be eternally grateful and thankful everyday that He gives us life! Having this understanding instills in us a foundation of truth and honesty that trusts God in all that we do. We are not self-made, nor do we or can we sustain life on our own. God sustains us. He is our provider. He makes the crooked roads straight. He leads us beside the still waters. He refreshes our souls. Without Him, we can do nothing. So why do we look unto ourselves, or try to glorify ourselves instead of the One who sits on the throne? Having humility will provide hope to those who are void of self-righteousness. This increases our character awareness that the dependability upon God is crucial in these times we live in. Trusting and believing in God will carry us through whatever situations or problems or dilemmas that we will in this life. But humbling ourselves before the Father will build a foundation that will stand the test of time because our faith is in the Creator of all creation. Let’s get off that pedestal we sometimes inadvertently place ourselves on and humble ourselves before the Lord. Let Him get the glory in all that we do, and watch the King of Glory change your every situation. Be blessed!

“Humility is a thing which must be genuine; the imitation of it is the nearest thing in the world to pride.” C. H. Spurgeon

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Accountability: Is It A Part of Your Life?

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 23, 2012

Our Weekly Article of Encouragement Article 70 Volume 1

Accountability: Is It A Part of Your Life?

Okay. So I made some decisions and choices in my life that I regret. I know the mistakes I made in choosing this or that but I’ve learned from them. I know now not to repeat any choice or decision that is centered on bringing the advantage in my favor. I realize that being self-centered is wrong, so I won’t do it again. I’ll be making my decisions and choices a little more carefully from now on. I promise!
Sounds familiar? I believe all of us have made those declarations many times in our lives. We make promises of not ever doing anything again that brought shame or guilt, that showed others that we only think of ourselves. Sure, it’s almost like it’s a regular part of our daily language, not sticking to what we say or do. But have we ever thought about maybe, just maybe, involving another person or persons in the process? That person would be someone who we could trust with the things we share with them, the things that we say we will do and hold you accountable to. That person or persons would be our accountability cord.
Oftentimes when we take on tasks of responsibility we tend to not put our whole heart into it and therefore it sometimes doesn’t get accomplished. We tell others “I’ll take of this tomorrow” or I’m going to start doing this beginning on Monday of next week” and it never comes to fruition. Having an accountability partner can help us stay true to our word as well as our actions.

I remember time after time I would tell my wife “Okay sweetheart, I’ll take care of this afternoon” and I would every intention of doing just that. But with the daily activities of life going on and giving my attention to “other things,” I allowed it to slip through the cracks of procrastination and eventually would never get done. This can also spill over into our careers and workplaces as well. Our managers or supervisors may assign us tasks to complete and we all know the abundance of work that our bosses distribute to us. Our response would be “Okay sir, I’ll ask Steve to assist me and we’ll get it done.” But little did your boss know, you never consulted Steve about the task and it went unresolved. Now Steve is left without know what has happened. No accountability. Your word, as well as your integrity is now in question whether you can do what you say will do. Having accountability will assure you to follow through in all that you set out to do. It helps keep you sharp and alert to what is before you as well as sharpens the alertness of you accountability partner.

“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.”

Proverbs 27:17

No matter what you’re doing in life, accountability is a confident and secure way to keep all of us honest and transparent with one another. Our word is the only thing we have in this life that people will ever respect. So why shouldn’t have some re-enforcement behind our character and integrity with accountability attached? This is called verifiable accountability, someone who knows us and is willing to put their trust in what you say or do because you have shown them that you are a person of your word. This sharpens both you and your accountability partner. We shouldn’t try to go through life alone because God said it’s not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). We needed someone to share with, someone we could talk to, and someone who we can consult and bounce ideas and information off of and get a different perspective from. We don’t have all the answers. That’s why it’s imperative that we seek out a trusting individual or individuals who we can depend on, who we can trust with what we share with them and who can be confidential with any information we share with them. Here’s what the Word of God says about the value of a true friend:

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9, 10

That accountability partner will there for you in times of trouble, discouragement and especially when need an encouraging word or uplifting from a bad time in your life. When don’t have accountability in our lives we tend to skate through life with dishonest intentions, getting by without ever having a real sense of true honesty in anything we do. So you ask, how do I get this accountability I’m sharing about? I’ll use my own accountability cord as an example.
I have in my local church a pastor whom I have come to admire because of his passion for marriages and improving men’s relationships with God. That is a passion of mine as well. I spoke with him and shared that I wanted to be held accountable to him in all areas of my life, and I will honest and transparent with I share with him. He agreed, but insisted that since I’m requesting accountability he wanted to make sure I was willing to submit to sharing everything because if I wasn’t accountability would not work. I agreed with him, and we have been going strong for the last three years or so. He is my confidant, my friend, my brother, my pastor and my mentor. This is one of the most valuable relationships I have in this life. And you can have the same type of relationship with your accountability partner if you want it! It doesn’t have to be a pastor, just someone you may know that you trust with your personal life, your words, your daily activities, his wisdom and integrity as well as his knowledge of the Word of God. Having an accountability partner will give you the confidence in knowing that you’ll always have someone who challenges you daily to be real and sincere in all you do; in word, thought and deed. Seek accountability today. It may turn out to be your best friend like it is mine!

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Being Accountable Builds Character

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 23, 2012

It feels good when we make choices in life that have positive results. It shows that we put some thought and consideration into those choices without being double-minded and unstable in making that choice. But what about being accountable to someone when making those choices or decisions? Do we consult someone or others when we come across challenging situations that may require the knowledge and wisdom of those who may have the experience and understanding of those choices? Well, little do we know, seeking the wisdom of a trusted friend or guidance from someone who can hold us accountable to what we say and/or do builds our character on all levels. Having someone to be accountable to helps us stick to our word, and shows the integrity of who we are in everything we do. Accountability holds us to higher standard of living that displays a life of promise, faithfulness, trust and honesty. When we share our lives with a trusted and confident friend, they help us remain encouraged and true to our word. It strengthens our understanding to become who we portray ourselves to be.

So if we are one of those individuals who like to pass the buck, procrastinate, or don’t own up to your own actions, consider making a serious evaluation of your motives. Ask yourself why do I not follow through with what I say or do? What’s keeping me from being the man, or woman, that God created me to be? After all, there is accountability with the God (Father, Son, Holy Spirit). There was accountability with Adam and Eve when God said “It is not good for man to be alone . . .” (Genesis 2:18). So why should we be alone in our daily activities and everyday lives? Seek out a trusted friend and allow accountability to strengthen and guide you. We’re not only allowing accountability to encourage us, but we’re also making and establishing relationship with others. Be blessed!

“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17

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Responding to Your Inquiry

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 21, 2012


Hello Everyone!
We at Men of Redemption would like to thank all of you who have taken the time to read, comment and utilize our articles as well as our content. We are blessed to have such a site to glorify our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, and be a witness for Him.
Many of you have inquired of us regarding if we had a Facebook page. Well, we do! You can find our page at “Men of Redemption” from Cedar Hill, Texas. Our page contains similar articles and information regarding our ministry, our men’s group, as well as our activities and events. And some of you have inquired if are connected to a site that’s similar for the ladies. Well, yes we are! We are in partnership, and support, “Wive’s Redeemed Hearts” which you can find on Facebook as a page.


Both sites share and communicate what God has done, and is doing in the lives of men and women, as well as marriages, who struggle with various topics that we discuss because the topics are a growing and concerning issue, and have been for many years but no one really wanted to address them via the blog cyberworld.
Well, Men of Redemption and Wive’s Redeemed Hearts does, and will continue to address these and other concerns.
So there you have it. Thank you all so much for your support and we look forward to sharing with you all our experiences, good and bad, as well as the overcoming and process of victorious living through obedience and submission to our Lord, Our Savior, Jesus Christ. Be blessed friends, always!

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