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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 29, 2012

“Paul, an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, To the saints who are in Ephesus, and faithful in Christ Jesus: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace which He made to abound toward us in all wisdom and prudence, having made known to us the mystery of His will, according to His good pleasure which He purposed in Himself, that in the dispensation of the fullness of the times He might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven and which are on earth—in Him. In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will, that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory. In Him you also trusted, after you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also, having believed, you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, to the praise of His glory.”
Ephesians 1:1-14

If there was anyone who knew about the redeeming love of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, that would be the Apostle Paul. As a missionary, he was exposed to all kinds of persecution, hatred and disdain. But because of the blood of the Lamb, His grace and mercy, Paul was able to persevere and sustain through it all. This is a lesson we all learn as we live our lives today. No matter what we go through today or any day that God gives us life, we should rest in knowing that we have been redeemed by the blood of the Lamb, and the word of our testimony! Enjoy this beautiful Wednesday my friends! Be blessed!


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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 28, 2012

“The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness for His name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.”
Psalms 23:1-6

Being reminded that we are comforted and well taken care of gives us assurance, as well as security, to know that God is always there for us. He’s everything to us. At times we’re just like sheep, going astray in various directions. But God! Yes, the Great Shepherd, draws us back into the fold of His mercy and grace by leading our hearts back to Him. Live in His comfort, and enjoy the abundant life He has designed especially for you! Have a blessed and exciting day my friends!

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Wounded Parents, Wounded Children

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 27, 2012

Our Weekly Article of Encouragement Article 75 Volume 2

Wounded Parents, Wounded Children

Growing up as a child our parents began instilling in us morals and values that they believed would mold us into becoming good, honest and understanding adults. Many of us were nurtured closely while a lot of us just grew into the character that we’ve developed into based on our environments and what we were surrounded by. Then there were those of us who were influenced by society, and we’ve adopted the mentality that this is the way life is suppose to be. Looking at the influence our parents have had in our lives, we can say that they really tried to do the best they could. But little do we understand that our parents may have had some issues and concerns of their own that just might have influenced us in a not so positive manner. If we take some time and really look at ourselves, we’ll find that we all have similar tendencies of our parents that are laced with anger, habitual behaviors, discouragement, fear, and many other deficiencies that entangled our character and upbringing. These deficiencies have played a huge part in many of our lives and have stayed with us over the years. They have embedded themselves within our demeanor and for some reason that’s what we identify ourselves with. Some of our parents have harbored hurts for years and have not sought help for healing of those hurts. They assumed that the hurts would go away in time as they live life and pour themselves into their children. But little do they understand that when those hurts are addressed and dealt with, they transfer inadvertently those hurt through their actions and behaviors, good or bad, onto their children, and the children become prone to same hurts and behaviors in their own lives. I’d like to look at this in some detail because what our parents have gone through in their own lives is, in essence, a direct reflection as to why a lot of us are dealing with, and going through some of the same issues and concerns in life today.

If we look closely at our own lives we carefully see our Mom, our Dad, maybe even some relatives and close friends, in each of our personalities and character. And some of us may not be happy with some of these character traits but that’s what we allowed ourselves to be influenced by. Some of you may say “Well, I didn’t have a choice” and others may proclaim “They weren’t bad people, but I just made some bad choices in who I let be in my life!” I’m not trying to paint a picture of excuses but there has to come a point in our lives where we recognize that we are really living a life of hurts and behaviors that had nothing to do with us, but passed onto us through our parents. That doesn’t make our parent “bad” people or misguided. This helps us understand why we are so much alike in some character traits.

Now I don’t want to forget those whose parents instilled some good qualities in some of us and it’s made a tremendous difference in our lives as successful and foundationally stable. Praise God for those parents. But there are a lot of us who are not as fortunate. And I haven’t mentioned anything about the negative traits of our parents that gravely have affected a lot of us, not only growing up as children but even today in our adult lives.

“‘Ah, Lord GOD! Behold, You have made the heavens and the earth by Your great power and outstretched arm. There is nothing too hard for you. You show lovingkindness to thousands, and repay the iniquity of the fathers into the bosom of their children after them—the Great, the Mighty God, whose name is the LORD of hosts. You are great in counsel and mighty in work, for Your eyes are open to all the ways of the sons of men, to give everyone according to his ways and according to the fruit of his doings.”

Jeremiah 32:17-19

As adults today, we can’t look back and say that our parents are the blame for the way we turned out. No. If we know that our parents, the guardians that reared us growing up, influenced and shaped us wrongly, we have the understanding now to change that perspective, and make sure that our children don’t inherit those very same tendencies and iniquities. Yes, I said iniquities! What are iniquities? Well, the dictionary states that iniquity is “a violation of right or duty; wicked act; sin.”
Now, I know that sounds a little harsh but when we look at some of the hurts that our parents have experienced it could very well be due to some type of sin in their lives, not just from their individual lives but passed on to them from their parents! So you see how these hurts and behaviors have been carried on into families, and many of us don’t even realize it. These character traits are called generational curses, because that’s what they are, curses. Every generation has something, someone that has established some type of violation, sin, character defects that have infiltrated generations as far back as one can remember. We understand our parents intentions were honorable but attached to that upbringing could have included character defects that “latched” onto personality, mindset, thinking, as well as spiritual awareness.
Please don’t misunderstand the dynamics of what I’m saying. It’s not about casting blame or looking at our parents any differently. It’s about becoming aware of who we are and what we can do to ensure that our children and our grandchildren don’t repeat the same mistakes and hurts that we have experienced. We want to break the cycle of these hurts, these behaviors and sins so that they will have an opportunity not to go through what our forefathers and mothers experienced. Our children deserve the right to grow up with the very best we can provide for them, and that includes looking at our lives and saying we are going to do the very best we can as parents and encourage them to live life with pain or sorrows or hurts passed on from us. How can we do this to ensure our children of this so-called very best life without the hurts? It starts with us recognizing our deficiencies and character defects as individuals and parents.

“For years I was swayed by uncertainty and bad decision making, and it affected me into my adult life as well. But thank God I realized before too late that I needed to change those defects if I wanted my girls to have a decent life and an opportunity to be successful.”

Looking at myself, I recognized, and learned that my father had many character defects that shaped into a person I was not really proud of. For years I was swayed by uncertainty and bad decision making, and it affected me into my adult life as well. But thank God I realized before too late that I needed to change those defects if I wanted my girls to have a decent life and an opportunity to be successful. I sought help by working with people that had what I wanted: wisdom, peace, integrity, accountability, spiritual guidance as well as experience in raising and nurturing children from God’s perspective. I asked them to pour into me daily, weekly, however I could receive it. They did. And after applying that knowledge, trusting God for His wisdom and guidance through them, the very fruits of that labor have spilled over into my daughters’ lives and we’re reaping that harvest now. I am truly grateful every day that God gives me life for the decision to not keep this generational curse going forward in my family. Some of you may be happy with the way things have turned out with your children. You may feel you’ve done a good job already because your children, now adults, and doing well, have exceeded expectation. Hallelujah! Praise the Lord! But what about those who are trying to find their way? What about those who lack the intestinal fortitude and strength to step into that destiny and secure their right to make change in their own generation? Here are some scriptures that can help you gain some understanding in preparing your children not be put in the position to continuing those character defects into their lives.

“In the fear of the LORD there is strong confidence, and His children will have a place
of refuge.” Proverbs 14:26

“Children’s children are the crown of old men, and the glory of children is their father.”

Proverbs 17:6

“The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him.”
Proverbs 20:7

“Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.”
Psalms 127:3

I encourage you my friends to look at your efforts and really examine if what you’re doing for and in your children is not laced, or infiltrated, or disguised as innocent intent. It could be that our children may be carrying burdens that they should be. Pray for your children daily, and lift them up unto the Lord. Ask God to watch over them daily, and to keep His protection and guidance around them, no matter how old they are! You are, and will always be Mom and Dad, no matter what they go through. But you’ll always be remembered for what you did for them, in them, and through them. Leave a lasting legacy those generations will read about this decision that you made, to stop the pain, to stop the hurts, and to stop the behaviors. God will be pleased you did!

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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 27, 2012

“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful; But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and in His law he meditates day and night. He shall be like a tree Planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in its season, whose leaf also shall not wither;
and whatever he does shall prosper. The ungodly are not so, but are like the chaff which the wind drives away. Therefore the ungodly shall not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. For the Lord knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the ungodly shall perish.”
Psalms 1:1-6

The ways of the righteous are pleasing to our Heavenly Father. When we live our lives with Christ as the center focus of our being, God delights in His creation. It warms His heart to see His children in obedience much like it warms our hearts when we see our children doing what we tell them to do. Let pleasing our Lord Jesus Christ be the first and foremost purpose in your life. We were created to glorify Him, not ourselves. Have a great and exciting Monday friends! Be blessed!

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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 24, 2012

“Those who trust in the Lord Are like Mount Zion, Which cannot be moved, but abides forever. As the mountains surround Jerusalem, So the Lord surrounds His people From this time forth and forever. For the scepter of wickedness shall not rest On the land allotted to the righteous, Lest the righteous reach out their hands to iniquity. Do good, O Lord, to those who are good, And to those who are upright in their hearts. As for such as turn aside to their crooked ways, The Lord shall lead them away With the workers of iniquity. Peace be upon Israel!”

Psalm 125:1-5

Knowing that God is our comforter, our peace, and our protection assures us that He will never leave us nor forsake us. He is always there for us no matter what. He will keep our hearts turned toward Him if we do good and seek after righteousness. Is that a great promise or what! Who do you know that can say that, and always keep his word? Nobody but God Himself! Have a blessed weekend my friends!

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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 23, 2012

Have mercy upon me, O God, According to Your lovingkindness; According to the multitude of Your tender mercies, Blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight—That You may be found just when You speak, And blameless when You judge. Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, And in sin my mother conceived me. Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts, And in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom. Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean;
Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow. Make me hear joy and gladness,
That the bones You have broken may rejoice. Hide Your face from my sins,
And blot out all my iniquities. Create in me a clean heart, O God,
And renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from Your presence, And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, And uphold me by Your generous Spirit. Then I will teach transgressors Your ways, And sinners shall be converted to You.

Psalm 51:1-13

As children of God, all of us have done things that we’re not exactly proud of. We have brought shame and guilt to our lives as well as to others. But bless the Name of Jesus we have a God that loves us and desires us to come before Him and confess, repent, and be forgiven for all that we have done. Yes, that’s why He died for us, that we may recognize our sin and realize that He love us so much, that he gave His life for us. No matter what we’ve done, God can, and will bring restoration to wholeness in Him. Have a blessed day my friends!

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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 22, 2012

“Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others
Philippians 2:1-4

There is nothing like pleasing our heavenly Father with our lives being in unity and humility with others. It rids us of our pride and selfishness, allowing our focus to be on Him; we proclaim our love for Christ through our care for one another; and God tests and purifies our hearts through service. Have a great and blessed day my friends!

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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 21, 2012

“In You, O Lord, I put my trust; Let me never be put to shame. Deliver me in Your righteousness, and cause me to escape; Incline Your ear to me, and save me. Be my strong refuge, To which I may resort continually;
You have given the commandment to save me, For You are my rock and my fortress. Deliver me, O my God, out of the hand of the wicked,
Out of the hand of the unrighteous and cruel man. For You are my hope, O Lord GOD; You are my trust from my youth. By You I have been upheld from birth.You are He who took me out of my mother’s womb.
My praise shall be continually of You.”
Psalm 71:1-6

The Lord God has demonstrated who He is and what He has done for us. He gave His life for us. Therefore, He is our rock, our strong tower. He is everything to those who love and obey Him. He the Lord God Jesus Christ the solid rock of your salvation? What greater love than this that a man would lay down his life for the very people who nailed Him to the cross. That’s love my friends! Have a wonderful day and be blessed my friends!

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Are We Men of Our Word?

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 20, 2012

Our Weekly Article of Encouragement Article 74 Volume 2
Are We Men of Our Word?
(Just Ask Our Family)

Being a good husband, father, dad, and leader of our families are utmost priority in our lives today. Understanding these responsibilities with our whole heart involved will surely produce eternal blessings in the lives of those affected by our dedication and commitment to them, our families. Our wives and children depend on us as head of our homes, displaying leadership potential to guide, direct and provide purpose, all with the covering of love. I know guys, sounds like a lot. But when we asked our woman for their hand in marriage, many of us didn’t realize that all of these attributes were included in the proposal. Now what? Own up to your responsibility guys! Our children are watching every move we make so pay attention, and so are our wives. So what’s the biggest challenge for us as men with our families? It’s not being a provider because if you look at yourself as any kind of man you’re going to do that anyway. I believe it’s being men of our word, just doing what we say we are going to do. And being a Man of God, that statement is illuminated 10 times within our spirit man, and brings conviction when we fail to carry out what we say.
I know for myself that on many an occasion I have said to my wife and family I’ll take care of that later in the week” and “Sure sweetheart, we’ll go out this weekend and spend some time together” or “Okay Johnny, when I get home from work we’ll head to the park and play some ball.” I know those statements sound familiar to most of our male readers but if we’re struggling with just staying true to our word with these “simple” tasks, then what is our family going to think when a major decision or adjustment is required and we can’t even do the little things? What can we do guys to help ourselves stay true to our word and not misguide our families into uncertainty when it comes to taking us serious for what we say? I pray that as you read on that the peace and wisdom of God will reveal itself for guidance and understanding.

For years I can remember when I would say to my wife and family the very same things that were mentioned moments ago in this very article. Excuse after excuse was part of my life for so long that it was almost like excuse was my middle name. My daughters would say “Dad, I thought we were going to go play some ball!” When I told them okay, after I get home from work, I didn’t consider the time I would arrive home, or the few minutes I would need to wind down from a hard days’ work or whatever the excuse may be. Before I agreed to commit to her request I should’ve taken the time to really look at what is asked of me. It was more than just playing ball. It was about relationship building, spending quality time with my daughter and enjoying it with her. I can count so many times where I just went along for the request just to get it over with and hurry back home. That wasn’t fair to my daughter. Or when I told my wife that I would take out for the weekend, and when the weekend arrived and didn’t follow through, my excuse would be well, sweetheart, can we cancel it for this week and do it next week? What kind of message am I sending to her, my wife! And doing that over the years can get so aggravating that it can build resentment and bitterness within the marriage. Now, it’s a wonder why our wife’s don’t believe us or take us at what we say. We have been never dependable to follow through!
What I did was ask myself a couple questions: Why am I procrastinating when it comes to doing what I say, and why is following through with my word to my family such a struggle for me? I look at what I was doing in my life, what I was so in a hurry for that I wouldn’t follow through with my words, and God showed me: you’re lazy, just plain lazy! I took a second look and yes, I was a lazy man, slothful is what the Word of God calls it! And that’s rooted in selfishness because it was all about me. I immediately asked God for forgiveness and to change my heart from a heart of self-centeredness to a heart of compassion for my family.

“The soul of a lazy man desires, and has nothing; But the soul of the diligent shall be made rich. Proverbs 13:4

And after a process of learning and maturing in compassion and love of the Father, He granted my request and now I’m spending every waking moment with my family enjoying our times together and doing exactly what I say I’m going to do with them.

There are no more excuses for not getting enough rest or I’m tired. When I tell my family I’m going to do something I follow through, and with expectancy from my family. I’ve learned the hard way that it’s not about me, and what I can do or provide for my family to keep them occupied. It’s about living a life of truth and honesty, and following through with what I say will do. My family, my legacy, stands to benefit from this decision for generations to come.
So I appeal to you guys out there who are having similar situations in your own homes or relationships. Take a serious look at what’s important to you and ask yourselves those two questions I asked myself. Now I want to please God with my words as well as my family. I want to be a Man of his word. I desire my word to be peace in my home. I desire to lead my family with truth and honesty, beginning with me being true to God, myself and then to my family. I asked God to take away what was making me lazy and place in me diligence, a passion for my family, and deliver me from the guilt of laziness. He did. And now, I’m living in that freedom every day that He gives me life. I ask you men, will you do what it takes to be a man of your word? I sincerely pray that you do.

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
Be acceptable in Your sight,
O LORD, my strength and my Redeemer.
Psalm 19:14

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Our Morning Coffee, with The Word

Posted by Men of Redemption on February 20, 2012

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:1, 2

Transformation starts with a renewing of our minds and hearts. And when this happens, our perspectives on and in life begin to change for the better. We start to see people as God sees them, His cherished creation. As we do this present ourselves as acceptable to God. Have a great day and start of your week. Be blessed my friends!

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