Men of Redemption

Restoring a Life of Purity – One Day at a Time

Recovery Tip For This Week

Posted by Men of Redemption on September 26, 2016



Don’t Cast Blame on Anyone for Your Struggles

You’re doing well in your recovery, and everything is going according to your plan with consistency and committed efforts on all fronts. Then comes along those who are watching and observing your efforts and they begin to speak doubt and criticism over all that you’re doing. You’re distraught, surprised and even angry because you thought they would be in support of you  in all that you’re doing. Not! They start denying your commitment and really begin to rattle you emotionally and you feel disenchanted, blaming them for how you feel. You start to declare that if they weren’t saying those things you wouldn’t be struggling as you are. Or you might even go as far as saying it’s their fault because of this behavior or action. Stop it! Stop blaming others for your behaviors or actions because they are not in support of you and what you’re doing in recovery. No one is to blame for you for what you’re doing. You’ve made some poor choices, some bad mistakes that have affected others, and you’ve acknowledged it. Now, you’re working diligently to bring some amends to damaged relationships and it will take time. But never cast blame on others when they criticize your efforts or even question your ability during this process of recovery. You’ve accepted responsibility for your actions and behaviors. You’ve repented and asked for forgiveness, now the process of healing and renewal of mind and heart begins and you have to understand that those who have not forgiven you yet are still hurting and that will take some time. So blaming others while you’re in the process is not the right thing to do. This is called “Blame-Shifting” in recovery terminology. Looking to blame other can send you spiraling back into your mess and it’ll be even harder to get back out again! When you feel the pressures of recovery, don’t cast blame, just speak to yourself . . . .

“Lord God, I realize the pain and hurt that I have cause family, friends, co-workers and others. I’m sorry for making those choices and decisions. But I pray that you would strengthen me to not blame others but move forward in my recovery as you renew my mind and transform my heart that I may please you Father God.”

Then read this . . . . Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.”  –   PSALM  19:14


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