Men of Redemption

Restoring a Life of Purity – One Day at a Time

WHAT’S YOUR QUESTION ON RECOVERY?

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 16, 2017

MY QUESTION IS . . . .

“I’ve struggled with addictive behaviors for over 20 years now, everything from porn to infidelity and everything in between. I want to stop this behavior because I know I’m a better man than what I’ve displayed myself as. I want to stop but it’s so hard and I don’t what to do or how to go about it. What can I do to rid myself of this behavior before something worst happens to me?

WOW. Sounds like you’ve come or coming to a crisis of truth. I’ll explain that later. Sounds like you’re tired of being sick and tired. I’ve been there and just like you I was fed up and needed to something and fast! First of all, I acknowledged my sin. These behaviors are a lifestyle of sin, a nature that has captivated men since the beginning of time. When you have acknowledged your sin, make confession the Lord God Almighty, Jesus Christ, and bring it before the Lord. Then ask Him to forgive you of your sin and behavior, and help you understand what it is you’ve been through. Now, it doesn’t stop there. You need to seek out a couple of things: (1) some Christian Counseling to better understand the struggles you’ve been through for the last 20 years. Christian counseling will help you identify the root causes of your behavior; going back into your past and discovering when this actually took place. You have to go back in your history and deal with the root before you even consider moving forward. The counselor will then help formulate a plan to help you overcome and sustain a life of purity that will involve setting up boundaries and structure which will involve accountability, transparency and honesty. If you really want to rid yourself of these behaviors these three components are crucial to this process. Then (2) you need to find a Men’s Support Group that is structured in the same way that your counselor has set up a plan for you. You need a men’s group that is structured with high levels of confidentiality, accountability and group leaders who are trained to walk with you on this journey on a personal level.  This group needs to have in place a foundation that is proven, vital to the cause of redemption and walking in freedom. It cannot be a group that meets once a week, go through the motions and then turn you lose after the meeting and then no immediate contact until you reconvene the following week. You need a group that’s going to be with you in this journey 24-7, through phone calls, through visitation and through face-to-face meetings. You need this kind of criteria if you truly want to rid yourself of these behaviors.

As I mentioned earlier, sounds like you’re having a crisis of truth. This is when you’ve reached or face a decision or moment in your life that going to have made a decision you never really wanted to make in your life and you have to make it. Whether it’s a catastrophe, loss of a family member, loss of your marriage or career, all because of your addictive behaviors. Your addictive behaviors can do exactly that if you don’t stop in your tracks and realize where you’re at in life and with your behaviors. This is why you need to make the decision before the decision is made for you. So don’t put it off any longer, DO IT NOW!! You have to understand you’re not playing with something you can go and get a subscription of pills for and it’ll leave you in a couple of days. This is a spiritual battle, and you can’t fight this battle with fleshly remedies. You have to use spiritual weapons for spiritual warfare. You don’t want the consequences of your actions to dictate what will or can happen to you, it’s that serious! So get some help now and don’t wait my friend. There is help out there IF you truly want it!

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”  –  Ephesians 6:10-12      

 

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