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My Daily Devotion – My Quiet Time With God

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 30, 2017

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Today’s Reading: 1 Timothy 4:1-11 . . . .

“Now the Spirit expressly says that in latter times some will depart from the faith, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their own conscience seared with a hot iron, forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be refused if it is received with thanksgiving; for it is sanctified by the word of God and prayer. If you instruct the brethren in these things, you will be a good minister of Jesus Christ, nourished in the words of faith and of the good doctrine which you have carefully followed. But reject profane and old wives’ fables, and exercise yourself toward godliness. For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come. This is a faithful saying and worthy of all acceptance. For to this end we both labor and suffer reproach, because we trust in the living God, who is the Savior of all men, especially of those who believe. These things command and teach.


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Regaining Trust While in Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 30, 2017

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“Rebuilding Takes Time-You are Under Construction”      

Trying to rebuild trust in our marriages is a very difficult, yet consuming task to say the least. It’s going to require of us tremendous dedication and intentionality on our part to trust God to do the impossible at this stage of our recovery. But understand, God isn’t in to quick fixes. He wants to give us something better than what we had before not to restore it. What trust looked like while we were in our “mess” will look completely different when God intervenes and brings transformation guys! Things will look different; our intentions will be with purpose; and there will be no hidden agendas or motives behind anything we say or do. God will show us the damage, and He will lead us and guide us into what needs to take place with the help of those He will place around us and in our lives. We have to understand that God will be doing this, not ourselves! This reminds me of Nehemiah when he saw how devastated the city of Jerusalem was and what he wanted to do to rebuild it. He had passion for his city, his people, and he was willing to go under construction to do it no matter what it took to make it happen. Look at Nehemiah’s desire to rebuild . . . .

“Then I said to them, “You see the distress that we are in, how Jerusalem lies waste, and its gates are burned with fire. Come and let us build the wall of Jerusalem, that we may no longer be a reproach.” And I told them of the hand of my God which had been good upon me, and also of the king’s words that he had spoken to me. So they said, “Let us rise up and build.” Then they set their hands to this good work. “- Nehemiah 2:17, 18

Nehemiah wasn’t in a hurry to rebuild, he was in submission to the cause and process to do his part because that was his passion to rebuild the city. How about us? Do we have the passion, the desire to see our marriage, see the trust that has been violated, and seek God and His plan with those He surrounds us with to rebuild our marriage and allow the trust that God will provide to be rebuilt? This is exactly what our wives are praying for-DAILY! Let’s make a stand and go to work guys. If we want trust to return, let’s put our hope in Him who can do the right way!

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Regaining Trust While in Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 29, 2017


“Focus on You, Not Your Wife!”      

If we want trust to return guys, we need to stop looking at our wives during the process. Look at where our focus and energies are guided towards-our wives, and that detracts from our efforts to stay consistent with what we have agreed to do! And our wives see this! I’ve learned over the years that my recovery is my recovery. If I want to regain my wife’s trust, then I need to keep my eyes on God, the Lord Jesus Christ, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide me, to teach me, to help me not lean unto my own understanding, and trust Him to do what I cannot do. Trust, in the early stages of recovery is so far down the road that we shouldn’t even be looking for it or at it! We have too much to work on, and that is exactly what our wives are praying that we do. I dare this, but I believe we must first learn to trust ourselves all over again with a new, transformed thought process of dependability and desire, and that can only come from God Almighty Himself! Our wives want to see us trust the process, doing what we have agreed to do in recovery and with a genuine heart to match. So when the Lord God allows us to wake up in the morning, remember, when we go to look in the mirror we only see one person, not ourselves and our wife. Lord God, help me do me, and the rest will take care of itself!

“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”  –  Matthew 6:33

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What’s Your Question About Being in Recovery?

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 29, 2017

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“Since being in recovery for my addictive behaviors, I’ve learned a lot about myself, my issues and understanding who I really am. I want to help other men who are struggling with the same issues that I have and help them begin to walk in purity and wholeness. It’s been a little over a couple of years in recovery for me so how can I help others receive what I have received?” 

This is very encouraging to hear. Most men in recovery would rather go through the process, get their healing, feel good about themselves after discovering how they can walk in the newness of life and then walk away from their group with nothing else to say. Wow! With that being said, I would suggest to you to speak with your group leader from your support group about possibly being considered to becoming a co-leader in your group. This way, you can work alongside a group leader, become actively involved in sharing and facilitating group activity and dynamics as a true example and product of the group. This opportunity will be a tremendous blessing to those men who join the group, having understanding that the leaders are considered from those who have been through the group and are actively being utilized in support for other men as well. This is huge for any group-it’s discipleship at its best! This is exactly what most groups are looking for. By staying true to your commitment to helping others, this will impact so many men because they are looking for real, true examples in the group, and with you having been in the group for two years plus you are exactly what they are looking for in what real recovery looks like. I applaud you my friend!


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My Daily Devotion – My Quiet Time With God

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 29, 2017

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Today’s Reading: Luke 12:22-34 . . . .

“Then He said to His disciples, “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; nor about the body, what you will put on. Life is more than food, and the body is more than clothing. Consider the ravens, for they neither sow nor reap, which have neither storehouse nor barn; and God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds? And which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? If you then are not able to do the least, why are you anxious for the rest? Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. If then God so clothes the grass, which today is in the field and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, how much more will He clothe you, O you of little faith? “And do not seek what you should eat or what you should drink, nor have an anxious mind. For all these things the nations of the world seek after, and your Father knows that you need these things. But seek the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added to you. “Do not fear, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. Sell what you have and give alms; provide yourselves money bags which do not grow old, a treasure in the heavens that does not fail, where no thief approaches nor moth destroys. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

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Regaining Trust While in Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 28, 2017

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“Trust Will Come with Consistency and Commitment”      

As we continue to focus on our recovery efforts, we still should keep our intentions on being as consistent as possible, along with staying committed to the process. If you in a Pure Desire 7-Pillars support group, that process will take us anywhere from 3-5 years to get to a place in our lives where we can maintain a consistent style of living in purity, wholeness and holiness. I know some guys who have attended our Pure Desire group in the pass enter our group with the expectation of completing the workbook in six months, have a little accountability and think they’re healed from their addictive behaviors. There is no truth to that statement at all, nothing but a lie from the enemy of our soul. We have to commit ourselves to the process, staying focused and intentionally on task in completing all three components of Group Dynamics (Faster Scale/Commitment to Change/Homework). When our wives see the consistency and commitment in our recovery efforts, it gives her understanding that she can see trust down the road, the light at the end of the tunnel. It won’t automatically return, but progression and moving forward is always a good indicator that we men in recovery are doing the right thing. Staying the course, never giving up no matter how strong the struggle becomes, as long as we continue to remain focused, be consistent and stay committed to the process, trust will gradually find its way back.

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My Daily Devotion – My Quiet Time With God

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 28, 2017


Today’s Reading: John 12:42-50 . . . .

“Nevertheless even among the rulers many believed in Him, but because of the Pharisees they did not confess Him, lest they should be put out of the synagogue; for they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God. Then Jesus cried out and said, “He who believes in Me, believes not in Me but in Him who sent Me. And he who sees Me sees Him who sent Me. I have come as a light into the world, that whoever believes in Me should not abide in darkness. And if anyone hears My words and does not believe, I do not judge him; for I did not come to judge the world but to save the world. He who rejects Me, and does not receive My words, has that which judges him—the word that I have spoken will judge him in the last day. For I have not spoken on My own authority; but the Father who sent Me gave Me a command, what I should say and what I should speak. And I know that His command is everlasting life. Therefore, whatever I speak, just as the Father has told Me, so I speak.”

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What’s Your Question About Being in Recovery?

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 27, 2017

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“I’ve been in recovery for now for almost a year and I was wondering when would it be a good time to return to ministry where I was a worship leader. I still have a desire to return and be a part of ministry in some capacity but is a year enough time or should I continue to wait?” 

This is where you’ll need to take a serious inventory of where you are in recovery, your understanding of the progress you’ve made as well as the condition of your heart towards living in the hope that you are walking in your healing. Returning to ministry after just one year in recovery, yes, it can be done, but I would strongly suggest to wait at least another year based on the fact that after just one year you’ve just begun to discover your issues and the trauma that led to those issues. You’ve discovered some things about your behaviors that reveal what your belief system is and you’re starting to see the changes you need to make, then you’ll need to allow God to give you the strength and the wisdom to make those changes. It’s common with most men that after being in recovery for one year they feel they’ve done enough or they believe they have completed the course to healing, but it’s going to take more than just getting one year under your belt before returning to ministry. You also have to take into consideration what those who are overseeing you in that ministry are perceiving in you during your recovery. They’re concerned about how healthy you are as far as your relationship with God; have you begun the repentance process (confession, acknowledgement, forgiveness); are those you have affected by your behaviors ready to receive you back at this specific point and time; and most importantly, has God spoken to you about returning and have you prayed about it? So many things are involved is such an important decision. That’s why during the second year these and many other questions that will surely come into existence will surface and you’ll have plenty of time, and support to find out if and when you’re ready to return to ministry of any kind.

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Regaining Trust While in Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 27, 2017

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“Make Accountability Your Best Friend”       

As we continue in our recovery by seeking out a good support group, we should be looking for a good accountability cord to assist us in being accountable to other men. This can be downright scary for some men because many of us have never had to be accountable to others let alone to other men. This type of “fear” will start to set in with most guys, I know it did with me, until I discovered what being accountable truly meant. It’s not about just telling other men about what you’re doing. It also includes allowing like-minded men who want the same things in recovery as we do to be a part in sharing in our actions, decisions, choices, and being challenged as to how and why we came to those conclusions. My favorite accountability scripture comes to mind . . . .

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. – Psalm 27:17

As we begin to include other men into our lives and daily activities. It begins to free us from the isolation of being alone, having to do everything on our on without counsel or guidance. That’s probably what lead most of us to making the poor choices many of us have made in our lives, resulting in consequences we’re probably still paying for. Having some “godly men” in our lives bring assurance, confidence in being open and honest about what we’re doing with no more secrets or hidden agendas. Our wives will be rested assured in knowing that we have other men that we’re accountable to, to challenge us in those areas of weakness that she knows about that we’ve been in denial for so long. Having true accountability gives our wives something to “see” without us having to try to convince her that we’re doing the right thing. It’s not about convincing our wives-it’s about being genuine, being real with our thoughts, intentions and receiving guidance and instruction from others who will help us become better Men of God.

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My Daily Devotion – My Quiet Time With God

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 27, 2017

STAND IN THE MIDST OF PERSECUTION: IT’S ALREADY HAPPENING! Image result for persecution of christians today

Today’s Reading: Matthew 10:16-26 . . . .

“Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves. But beware of men, for they will deliver you up to councils and scourge you in their synagogues. You will be brought before governors and kings for My sake, as a testimony to them and to the Gentiles. But when they deliver you up, do not worry about how or what you should speak. For it will be given to you in that hour what you should speak; for it is not you who speak, but the Spirit of your Father who speaks in you. “Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death. And you will be hated by all for My name’s sake. But he who endures to the end will be saved. When they persecute you in this city, flee to another. For assuredly, I say to you, you will not have gone through the cities of Israel before the Son of Man comes. “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. It is enough for a disciple that he be like his teacher, and a servant like his master. If they have called the master of the house Beelzebub, how much more will they call those of his household! Therefore do not fear them. For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed, and hidden that will not be known.

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