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Archive for December 18th, 2017

Questions About Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 18, 2017

MY QUESTION IS . . . . Image result for couples in counseling

How do I talk to my wife about the past? 

I’m assuming that this discussion is about YOUR past, YOUR behaviors and/or addictions, YOUR wounds and hurts. Well, if these are the topics for discussion I truly believe the best time to have that talk is when the both of you are emotionally and spiritually healthy enough to engage on that level of conversation. You definitely don’t want to start talking about those concerns early on in your recovery. She is still hurting from the act of betrayal committed by you; you’re still probably in that state of shame and guilt-feeling sorrow and isolated because of what you’ve done to her. I would strongly suggest a few things you should consider before initiating that discussion.

Get yourself into a good support group. I strongly encourage you to surround yourself with some men of God who are like-minded, wanting and desiring the same thing as you-a safe place to share my struggles without condemnation, someone who will listen and hear your story about your wounds, hurts and trauma you’ve experienced; and those who have been through what you’ve struggle with who are living in freedom and overcoming that on a daily basis because it is a victory one day at a time.

Pray for a Spiritual Mentor for wisdom and guidance. All of us need a mentor or two who is filled with the Spirit of God, walking in His righteousness and will offer you direction, wisdom and understanding to those decisions regarding your recovery, the daily challenges you’re facing and give you spiritual guidance when it comes to the things of God. As our recovery progresses, you’ll need the understanding that will prepare you for such discussions as sharing your past with your wife, speaking to your children about your recovery, as well as sharing your story or journey with others whom you are in relationship with.

Seek a good Christian Counselor to help you go back into your past and identify those areas of concern that you want to share with your wife. Reflecting back into your past with a counselor can help see problems that you may have overlooked or may have not understood and it’s keeping you from moving forward. Bad relationships that never got closure, issues or situations that may have never been resolved, and even father wounds (no relationship or the lack thereof) can be issues that have you stagnant in life with no sense of hope of overcoming.

Once you have these things in place, and you’re seeing progress in your recovery, consult your mentor and share with him your desire to reveal to your wife about your past. He will carefully and prayerfully assess where you’re at in your recovery, how healthy emotionally and mentally you are and pray about the decision. You also have to be consciously aware of where your wife is emotionally and spiritually as well. She should receive some guidance, wisdom and understanding so that she is prepared to receive your sharing. You never know, she may hear something she is not prepared to receive and could be detrimental, even devastating  and without being prepared it could get critical. So I strongly suggest getting those three things in place first, along with your wife receiving some assistance as well. Then, along with the mentors overseeing the both of you it can be determined when the time is right for that discussion.

 

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Recovery Quote of The Day!

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My Daily Devotion – My Quiet Time With God

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 18, 2017

CHRIST LEAVES US WITH HIS PEACE Image result for peace

Today’s Reading: John 14:25-31 . . . .

“These things I have spoken to you while being present with you. But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you. Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. You have heard Me say to you, ‘I am going away and coming back to you.’ If you loved Me, you would rejoice because I said, ‘I am going to the Father,’ for My Father is greater than I. “And now I have told you before it comes, that when it does come to pass, you may believe. I will no longer talk much with you, for the ruler of this world is coming, and he has nothing in Me. But that the world may know that I love the Father, and as the Father gave Me commandment, so I do. Arise, let us go from here.”

 

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