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My Question About Recovery.

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 31, 2018

My Question is . . . .

I’ve belonged to my support group now for about seven months and I’m finally getting it. I like the direction my life is going in nowadays. But my problem is my wife is not supporting my or being the encouragement I’m looking for. I want her support but it seems like she’s so angry or discouraging towards me. I feel like sometimes I want to just quit. What do you suggest because I like what’s happening with me now?       

Welcome to Recovery my friend! The early stages of recovery are exactly that: it’ll get worse before it gets better. Even after six months, you have to realize that even though you’re making progress, moving forward, enjoying the shift in your life, your wife is still hurting. And every success you have moving forward, if your wife isn’t getting any support or ministering to, or in a support group for wives whose husbands are struggling with addictive behaviors she’s still hurting and still feeling betrayed. You have to understand this as you continue to move forward. Your strongest supporter should be your wife but with no one in her corner to be there for her (the victim), she’ll feel that way for a while. And the one thing you should not do is suggested to her to get some help in that area. You’ll only be twisting the dagger even harder. Let me suggest a few things that will make your efforts more appreciated and encouraging from your wife sooner than later.

First of all, continue to progress in your recovery by doing everything that is requested of you in your recovery plan. Staying focused, consistent, and intentional will show her you’re serious about getting the help you desire. Secondly, pray that every day God speaks to her heart and bring comfort, peace, and understanding to her through this process. Also, pray that God would send Women of God in her direction who have overcome what she is experiencing and help guide and support her as you continue doing what you’re purposed in doing. When those women reach out to her, they’ll surround her with the right support, prayer, and guidance in understanding she’ll need to see the big picture for what it truly is and that’s healing for the both of you! Thirdly, speak to your group leader and inquire if there is a women’s support group in the area. Don’t tell your wife that she needs to attend this group but suggest to her that there is a group for wives who support women who have gone through what she is going through, and just present that to her to check out at her convenience. She’ll probably put it on the shelf for a month or so, but with prayer and trusting God, He will move upon your faith in Him to open her heart to the idea. In the meantime, you’re still being consistently and purposefully going strong in all of your efforts towards walking in freedom and healing. Eventually, in His timing, God will move in the miraculous and bring her to a point of understanding, and her heart will be turned towards understanding you and your efforts. Let me say this: Don’t stop what you’re doing to receive the accolades of affirmation and encouragement from her when she does share that! You will be tempted to rest in that for a moment and begin to believe you have arrived in your recovery. It’s a trick from the enemy to take your focus off of your progress. KEEP MOVING FORWARD!! Receive it and then work even harder to stay on that level of effort and pursue the process with even more tenacity and vigor. This will give your wife clarity and assurance that you’re serious and moving forward even when she didn’t or wouldn’t believe you. As you continue, she will be more open to supporting you, encouraging you, and being the best supporter to you and for you. And by the way, she may join that women’s support group and find it very supportive and glad she made that decision.

 

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 31, 2018

THE TEST OF KNOWING HIM

From The Book of 1 John 2:8-11 . . . .

“Now by this, we know that we know Him if we keep His commandments. He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this, we know that we are in Him. He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked. Brethren, I write no new commandment to you, but an old commandment which you have had from the beginning. The old commandment is the word which you heard from the beginning. Again, a new commandment I write to you, which thing is true in Him and in you, because the darkness is passing away, and the true light is already shining. He who says he is in the light and hates his brother is in darkness until now. He who loves his brother abides in the light, and there is no cause for stumbling in him. But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.” 

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 30, 2018

THE JUST SHALL LIVE BY FAITH

From The Book of Hebrews 10:26-39 . . . .

“For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful expectation of judgment, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries. Anyone who has rejected Moses’ law dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. Of how much worse punishment, do you suppose, will he be thought worthy who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, counted the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified a common thing, and insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. And again, “The Lord will judge His people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. But recall the former days in which, after you were illuminated, you endured a great struggle with sufferings: partly while you were made a spectacle both by reproaches and tribulations, and partly while you became companions of those who were so treated; for you had compassion on me in my chains, and joyfully accepted the plundering of your goods, knowing that you have a better and an enduring possession for yourselves in heaven. Therefore do not cast away your confidence, which has great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise: “For yet a little while, And He who is coming will come and will not tarry. Now the just shall live by faith; But if anyone draws back, My soul has no pleasure in him.” But we are not of those who draw back to perdition, but of those who believe to the saving of the soul.

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My Question About Recovery.

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 29, 2018

My Question is . . . .

I’m a single guy in a support group. It seems that everyone in my group is married and all the sharing is about marriage, guys and their wives disagreements or spousal issues. How do I let my group leader know that I’d like to be connected to a group of my peers so I can relate to everyone? 

Excellent question! Most support groups are strategically centered around guys who are married because of the overwhelming exposure of marriages and the problems that they’ve incurred or allowed. But that’s not a reason or excuse that there aren’t groups geared to minister and support the single population. In fact, more single men, and women are coming forward with their struggles because they don’t have accountability; they don’t have to answer to anyone so their struggles are hidden, and they’re tired of hiding the shame and guilt that comes with that isolation. Speak to the Facilitator of your group and suggest to him that you’d like to get in a group that has just single guys. There are some groups that make that request a part of their structure for facilitation. I truly understand your point and concern, and I think it’s valid and should be addressed in all groups. If your overall group doesn’t have one, suggest to him about your concern. Maybe that request will urge that group leader or facilitator to consider developing one or two of his leaders for that primary focus. Very good question my friend!

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 29, 2018

PUT ON THE WHOLE ARMOR OF GOD DAILY

From The Book of Ephesians 6:10-20 . . . .

“Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

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Recovery Tip For This Week!

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 28, 2018

LET PRAYER COVER EVERYTHING THIS WEEK!

 

 

So we’re doing good in our recovery thus far. Our recovery structure is going well: we’re praying every morning; we’re reading the Bible daily; we’re being accountable to those who are praying with us and for us; we’re staying connected to workbooks for recovery material to help, lead, and guide us; and most of all we’re trusting God to complete this process altogether. Looks good, feels good, and sound good. But let’s include one more challenge for overall covering: Praying over our entire week!

As we begin this week, and it should be every week, we should always pray over what we desire for the week, what we believe God wants to do in us and through us for the week and pray over those whom we are responsible for and they’re safety and well-being. Asking and trusting God for His covering over these and so many other things we involve ourselves in is crucial to our process of maintaining wholeness, purity, and self-awareness. Praying for our week will comfort us with God’s perfect love and protection. Without it, will open opportunities for unwanted struggles, doubt, as well as temptations that we’re not looking for or expecting. Why would we want to leave our homes without that protection from God? Make it a point of concern to start our day and our week off with the covering and protection from God through prayer that we truly need, then we can rest, and be secure knowing that we have the Creator of the Universe watching over all that we have and all that is connected to us.

 

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 28, 2018

OLD TESTAMENT EXAMPLES

From The Book of 1 Corinthians 10:1-13 . . . .

“Moreover, brethren, I do not want you to be unaware that all our fathers were under the cloud, all passed through the sea, all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, all ate the same spiritual food, and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them, and that Rock was Christ. But with most of them, God was not well pleased, for their bodies were scattered in the wilderness. Now, these things became our examples, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they also lusted. And do not become idolaters as were some of them. As it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play.” Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell; nor let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed by serpents; nor complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer. Now all these things happened to them as examples, and they were written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the ages have come. Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”

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Peace and Purpose in A Psalm

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 25, 2018

PEACE . . . . THAT THE LORD WILL RESTORE FAVOR TO THE LAND

Psalm 85: 1-13 . . . .

“Lord, You have been favorable to Your land; You have brought back the captivity of Jacob. You have forgiven the iniquity of Your people; You have covered all their sin. Selah. You have taken away all Your wrath; You have turned from the fierceness of Your anger. Restore us, O God of our salvation, And cause Your anger toward us to cease. Will You be angry with us forever? Will You prolong Your anger to all generations? Will You not revive us again, That Your people may rejoice in You? Show us Your mercy, Lord, And grant us Your salvation. I will hear what God the Lord will speak, For He will speak peace To His people and to His saints; But let them not turn back to folly. Surely His salvation is near to those who fear Him, That glory may dwell in our land. Mercy and truth have met together; Righteousness and peace have kissed. Truth shall spring out of the earth, And righteousness shall look down from heaven. Yes, the Lord will give what is good; And our land will yield its increase. Righteousness will go before Him, And shall make His footsteps our pathway.”

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing!

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 25, 2018

WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUERORS!!

From The Book of Romans 8:31-39 . . . .

“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: “For your sake, we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

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My Morning Devotion – Getting God’s Word in Me First Thing

Posted by Men of Redemption on May 24, 2018

JESUS, THE WAY TO THE FATHER

From The Book of John 14:5-14 . . . .

“Thomas said to him, “Lord, we don’t know where you are going, so how can we know the way?” Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know him and have seen him.” Philip said, “Lord, show us the Father and that will be enough for us.” Jesus answered: “Don’t you know me, Philip, even after I have been among you such a long time? Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? Don’t you believe that I am in the Father, and that the Father is in me? The words I say to you I do not speak on my own authority. Rather, it is the Father, living in me, who is doing his work. Believe me when I say that I am in the Father and the Father is in me; or at least believe on the evidence of the works themselves. Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.”

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