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My Question About Recovery Is . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 22, 2018




Don’t mean to sound harsh or disrespectful but the struggles of sexual addiction are here and will be until Christ returns. I realize that sounds punitive and even condemning but I assure you this is a fact of life and you should know this. This problem or as I should address it as it truly is-this epidemic, has captivated our culture on all levels. From the smallest to the tallest; from the youngest to the oldest; from male to female; and all across ethical boundaries worldwide affecting all nationalities and cultures, sexual addiction has been responsible for more travesties and catastrophes than we could ever imagine. It’s everywhere! From watching television to actually being physically involved, sexual addiction has been on a mission from the enemy of our souls to do exactly what it has accomplished thus far-to kill, steal and destroy men and women and get us to deny our identity in Christ Jesus and who He is! So what can we do to protect our children, as well as ourselves and all family members from this epidemic? Several things and I’ll mention a few of them.


Yes, this is critical! I’ve discovered that sexual behaviors in families are just as real as alcohol and drug addiction is. Somehow and someway our family members have been influenced, manipulated and encouraged at some point in their lives and have led them to behaviors they never thought imaginable. We have seen uncles, aunts, cousins, stepfamily, even grandparents, and great-grandparents, have been carrying these behaviors around for generations and we’ve accepted them because we’ve believed that they are part of our family’s tradition. That is a lie from the enemy of our souls and the pits of hell! If we are noticing these behaviors these are generational curses and need to be addressed immediately through Christian counseling and possibly therapy if needed. It probably has made its way down into your generation and manifested its presence in your life, your marriage and probably in your children. If there are unexplained instances of strange behavior or over-familiar antics throughout your family you need to pay attention to that because there is something wrong there. We cannot assume or even remain passive about this because of the disastrous effects it will have on those it’s focused on. Also, if you’re married, check on both sides of your family because we never know who or what is hiding behind any family member no matter how innocent they may appear.


Image result for examining yourselfAs we say in recovery, we always want to take a serious inventory of ourselves and our lives. That means taking time out of our busy schedules and look at our lives, past and present and see if there are any behaviors, habits, our thought life is under control, and identify those things that are hovering in and over our lives. It’s really easy to say there’s nothing we can see at the top of our heads. Stop looking at the top of our heads and look at our hearts! Ask God to reveal to you what has happened in your life and bring to your remembrance anything that is unfruitful, sinful, or behavioral that has interfered in our lives or our family. During our adolescence and young adult years, we may have experienced some behaviors while we were discovering the opposite sex and dating. I’m sure we’ve done some things we regret in word, thought, and deed. I know I have. Those were the seeds of the enemy planted within us and the fruit of that planting didn’t reveal itself until later on in our adult lives which could have resulted in bad relationship problems, hurt and pain, wounded by a man or woman and led to anger, frustration, which systematically could have led to rage and possibly abuse, even more, devastating behaviors. We never know until we take a serious look at ourselves. Our children are carefully watching us and will emulate everything they see in us as parents, and whatever they see it will assure them that these behaviors are traditionally accepted.

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Never assume that the behaviors you have observed in your family are acceptable or that it’s okay. It’s not! If you notice strange, compromising behaviors in yourself or in other family members, call a family meeting in a loving, safe environment and talk about it. Discuss what any of you have seen or observed in others and ask questions about it. Bring this darkness to the light and make everyone aware of it because it has gotten everyone’s attention. Then after the discussion, ask for help for this matter and be proactive in that request by reaching out. You can start by contacting your local church, a Christian counselor or your Pastor for guidance and direction. But do something so that this stronghold can be eradicated and lives stop being infected by the foothold of the enemy. Once you begin to get the help you need, involve your family in that process and be transparent about it, letting them know the truth about what this problem has done to your family and those that preceded you through the generations.


Image result for protection safeguardsNow that you’ve discovered there are problems and sought direction and guidance, begin to place boundaries in your personal life as well as your family’s life. Begin to monitor what you and your family watch on television, keeping close attention to the type of programming that is viewed by all members of your family.  Talk to your children about what types of music they’re listening to and the artists themselves about the life they sing about. Is it something you want your child or children to follow. And about those social media devices . . . . this is a big one! If your children have cell phones, tablets, IPADS or iPods, laptops, whatever, make sure you have software protection on everything! I can’t say enough about this. If you need additional support in understanding more about this please look into purchasing a good book called “Digital Natives” by Brian Roberts from Pure Desire Ministries International. Children ages 8-11 are being targeted as the next generation of internet purchasers and they are being bombarded with ads, pop-ups, internet sites to shop on, and what lures them to those sites . . . . yes, sexually related advertisements! Do everything you can to put safeguards up wherever you can because the enemy is operating in full force. So should you!! Having these safeguards in place won’t completely prevent your children from being exposed to this mess but it will grab their attention keep them aware and informed of the dangers involved should they proceed any further. And don’t forget to pray for your children daily, the activities they will be involved in and those they will interact with. We never know what they will be exposed to when we’re not around or in their presence.

I hope my response was helpful and educating. It is my hope, my prayer, that all of us as parents, husbands, and wives do all that we can to help protect our marriages, our children, and the generations to follow from this epidemic because we are losing men, women, and children daily because of the lack of understanding and preparation against sexual addiction. If you are still unsure about what to do, how to go about this, please contact me here at . . . .








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What’s Your Question About Being in Recovery?

Posted by Men of Redemption on January 11, 2018


When do I know that I’ve been healed and delivered of my sexual addiction? 

This is a seldom asked question because most guys are more concerned about how long is this healing process going to take! Wow! Well then, let’s get right after it my friend.

I want to assume first of all that you’ve been in recovery for a while now, presumably about a year or two if I’m safe to suggest. With that stated, there are several factors involved in determining or believing when you’re healed and/or delivered. I don’t want to give misconceptions or unproven facts to your answer but I do want to make certain that you thoroughly understand. Here are four points of concern.

One, ask yourself has there been a renewing of your mind. When you entered recovery, if you were involved in a strong support group like a Pure Image result for renewing of your mindDesire group, you would’ve understood that your mindset needed a complete over hall. You had to completely get rid of the “stinking-thinking” that you had before you got into recovery. You could’ve had gone through, and are going through recovery with the same mindset, it just won’t work! Your thoughts, the way you see life, people, your marriage(if you’re married), your relationships, your perspective, all of these must change because your understanding has been warped by the influences of the enemy of your soul. He has altered the way you think, the way you see things because they were distorted and twisted with selfishness, lust, promiscuity and anything else Satan could’ve thrown at you and everything you allowed him to give you.

Image result for transformation of the heartTwo, has there been a transformation of the heart. Emotionally, mentally and spiritually, all of these were infiltrated with desires that were built on your hurts, wounds and bad experiences that you’ve faced in life. We have allowed the enemy to substitute a counterfeit love that drew us to the things that made us feel that way and we were convinced that our sexual acting out was the answer to our problems, a medicating of the pain. Therefore, our feelings have changed towards the sensitive matters of our lives and that could mean a lot of things-who we love and care for, who and what is important to us, what we like, don’t like, hate, value, so many other things. Our passions for the true things in life has been turned upside down. Image result for god fearing relationships

Three, relationships have to change. There is no way that we can be successful in recovery, and work towards healing if we’re still holding onto those relationships we had when we were in those behaviors. Their influence is toxic, no matter what they try to convince us of. They encouraged you to act in those behaviors, to continue in sin. Now, we have to let go of those relationships and begin to develop relationships with those who are like-minded, those that want the same things as us, and that’s healing and deliverance from those behaviors. We ought to desire to surround ourselves with people who will build us up and no tear us down. This is crucial in determining if were getting our healing or not.

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Four, are you walking(living) consistently in freedom and purity. If your recovery is consistent with all that you’ve set out to do as of the beginning of your recovery, and that includes: facing the temptations of life and standing in righteousness; trusting God to lead you and His Holy Spirit to direct your paths unto all truth and understanding; surrounding yourself with men of accountability and spiritual wisdom; and are you consistently seeking after God as you’re walking this freedom out after turning your back on the past lifestyle of addictive behaviors.

Yes, I realize that’s a lot for a simple answer of say maybe after a year, after two years. That’s easy. But let me say this: there is so much more involve in knowing that you’re free from your addiction. Being set free from sexual addiction is not a feeling or a phase. It’s about a complete, renewal and transformation of our entire being because the enemy of our souls has done some serious damage, and not to mention the collateral damage that our behaviors have cause in relationships, family and our marriages. So I say the answer to your question is this: Ask yourself do I have all these points in place; have I experienced any or all of these and how do I see and look at my recovery in the time I have put into my recovery. When we can answer yes to all of these questions, and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God has done something (Healed & delivered) in me, then yo know that you are healed. Here’s a proven fact: Once God has touched in your recovery (or at all!) you are never the same as you were before. EVER!! That doesn’t mean that you’ll never be healed or delivered or even sin again! Having these points in place, you’re trusting God, and with accountability, will strengthen you and enable you to stand against the wiles and devices of the enemy of our souls with consistency. Your life will show that you are healed and delivered, in Jesus’ Name!

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” 

–  Romans 12:1, 2


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Questions About Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on December 18, 2017

MY QUESTION IS . . . . Image result for couples in counseling

How do I talk to my wife about the past? 

I’m assuming that this discussion is about YOUR past, YOUR behaviors and/or addictions, YOUR wounds and hurts. Well, if these are the topics for discussion I truly believe the best time to have that talk is when the both of you are emotionally and spiritually healthy enough to engage on that level of conversation. You definitely don’t want to start talking about those concerns early on in your recovery. She is still hurting from the act of betrayal committed by you; you’re still probably in that state of shame and guilt-feeling sorrow and isolated because of what you’ve done to her. I would strongly suggest a few things you should consider before initiating that discussion.

Get yourself into a good support group. I strongly encourage you to surround yourself with some men of God who are like-minded, wanting and desiring the same thing as you-a safe place to share my struggles without condemnation, someone who will listen and hear your story about your wounds, hurts and trauma you’ve experienced; and those who have been through what you’ve struggle with who are living in freedom and overcoming that on a daily basis because it is a victory one day at a time.

Pray for a Spiritual Mentor for wisdom and guidance. All of us need a mentor or two who is filled with the Spirit of God, walking in His righteousness and will offer you direction, wisdom and understanding to those decisions regarding your recovery, the daily challenges you’re facing and give you spiritual guidance when it comes to the things of God. As our recovery progresses, you’ll need the understanding that will prepare you for such discussions as sharing your past with your wife, speaking to your children about your recovery, as well as sharing your story or journey with others whom you are in relationship with.

Seek a good Christian Counselor to help you go back into your past and identify those areas of concern that you want to share with your wife. Reflecting back into your past with a counselor can help see problems that you may have overlooked or may have not understood and it’s keeping you from moving forward. Bad relationships that never got closure, issues or situations that may have never been resolved, and even father wounds (no relationship or the lack thereof) can be issues that have you stagnant in life with no sense of hope of overcoming.

Once you have these things in place, and you’re seeing progress in your recovery, consult your mentor and share with him your desire to reveal to your wife about your past. He will carefully and prayerfully assess where you’re at in your recovery, how healthy emotionally and mentally you are and pray about the decision. You also have to be consciously aware of where your wife is emotionally and spiritually as well. She should receive some guidance, wisdom and understanding so that she is prepared to receive your sharing. You never know, she may hear something she is not prepared to receive and could be detrimental, even devastating  and without being prepared it could get critical. So I strongly suggest getting those three things in place first, along with your wife receiving some assistance as well. Then, along with the mentors overseeing the both of you it can be determined when the time is right for that discussion.


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What’s Your Question About Being in Recovery?

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 29, 2017

MY QUESTION IS . . . . Image result for helping other men

“Since being in recovery for my addictive behaviors, I’ve learned a lot about myself, my issues and understanding who I really am. I want to help other men who are struggling with the same issues that I have and help them begin to walk in purity and wholeness. It’s been a little over a couple of years in recovery for me so how can I help others receive what I have received?” 

This is very encouraging to hear. Most men in recovery would rather go through the process, get their healing, feel good about themselves after discovering how they can walk in the newness of life and then walk away from their group with nothing else to say. Wow! With that being said, I would suggest to you to speak with your group leader from your support group about possibly being considered to becoming a co-leader in your group. This way, you can work alongside a group leader, become actively involved in sharing and facilitating group activity and dynamics as a true example and product of the group. This opportunity will be a tremendous blessing to those men who join the group, having understanding that the leaders are considered from those who have been through the group and are actively being utilized in support for other men as well. This is huge for any group-it’s discipleship at its best! This is exactly what most groups are looking for. By staying true to your commitment to helping others, this will impact so many men because they are looking for real, true examples in the group, and with you having been in the group for two years plus you are exactly what they are looking for in what real recovery looks like. I applaud you my friend!


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What’s Your Question About Being in Recovery?

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 27, 2017

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“I’ve been in recovery for now for almost a year and I was wondering when would it be a good time to return to ministry where I was a worship leader. I still have a desire to return and be a part of ministry in some capacity but is a year enough time or should I continue to wait?” 

This is where you’ll need to take a serious inventory of where you are in recovery, your understanding of the progress you’ve made as well as the condition of your heart towards living in the hope that you are walking in your healing. Returning to ministry after just one year in recovery, yes, it can be done, but I would strongly suggest to wait at least another year based on the fact that after just one year you’ve just begun to discover your issues and the trauma that led to those issues. You’ve discovered some things about your behaviors that reveal what your belief system is and you’re starting to see the changes you need to make, then you’ll need to allow God to give you the strength and the wisdom to make those changes. It’s common with most men that after being in recovery for one year they feel they’ve done enough or they believe they have completed the course to healing, but it’s going to take more than just getting one year under your belt before returning to ministry. You also have to take into consideration what those who are overseeing you in that ministry are perceiving in you during your recovery. They’re concerned about how healthy you are as far as your relationship with God; have you begun the repentance process (confession, acknowledgement, forgiveness); are those you have affected by your behaviors ready to receive you back at this specific point and time; and most importantly, has God spoken to you about returning and have you prayed about it? So many things are involved is such an important decision. That’s why during the second year these and many other questions that will surely come into existence will surface and you’ll have plenty of time, and support to find out if and when you’re ready to return to ministry of any kind.

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My Question on Recovery

Posted by Men of Redemption on July 12, 2017


“I joined a recovery group several months ago and I was relapse when I joined. To this day I remain in relapse because I hid my problem until I was thoroughly convinced that this was the group for me. Now, I want to stop my relapse and I’m struggling big time. What can I do?

Thank you for admitting you’re still in relapse. A lot of guys are right where you are and asking the same thing. What you want to begin doing is going to your support group leader and confiding in him, first of all that you are currently in relapse if he doesn’t already know. If you have that established relationship with him, confide in him as to why you’re in relapse, what’s going on in your life right now and all the busyness you have in place. Begin to share your heart with him, acknowledging everything, being transparent and honest, and then share with him what are you willing to do to move forward in getting the right help to meet you right where you are. After a careful and complete assessment of you sharing, the group leader will speak with the Facilitator of the group about it and they will come together on a plan that will work out for strengthening your recovery efforts and accountability protection. If more assistance is needed, perhaps counseling would  be suggested. But understand something-a support group is there for you to do exactly that, support you in your journey. We as group leaders can’t fix you. We can only support you, walk along side of you, and suggest the next level of support if needed. Most support group leaders are not licensed clinicians, counselors or therapists. We will only suggest available resources so that you can choose what’s the best option for you.


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Posted by Men of Redemption on June 20, 2017


“I feel I’m doing really well in my recovery group, as I’ve seen a lot of growth from where I used to be. It’s been nearly seven months of sobriety and I’m very encouraged as I move forward. Because of that growth, I’d like to have disclosure with my wife, sharing with her to know everything I’ve done to her in my addictive behaviors. Is this a good time to begin this process or should I wait?

Thank you for honesty and courage in sharing where you are in your recovery. That confession does show that you’re moving in the right direction. The answer to your question-WAIT. I truly understand your desire to be open and transparent with your wife, which is one of the goals we ought to pursue while in recovery, but we need to understand the sensitivity side of having disclosure. It’s good that you’re very proud of where you are in your journey, and keep up the good work. But seven months is not nearly enough time of sobriety to even consider disclosure. At this stage in your recovery you’re probably still working on some deep issues-trauma, hurts for the past, identifying those issues that have prohibited you from moving forward in life, as well as maybe some relationship concerns. I wholeheartedly understand you wanting to further the process of disclosure as you gain more confidence and healing in your recovery, but it’s also about understanding where your wife is emotionally, mentally and spiritually. If she has not received or have been receiving any support while you’re doing your recovery, that means that she’s still harboring that pain, that broken trust, with nowhere to turn or get help herself. Sometimes as men in recovery we can get so excited about our progress, but we tend to forget that the very person who was the recipient of the collateral damage we’ve cause with our behaviors was our wives. As we progress, we need to keep in mind our wives, what we’ve put them through, and all that they had incurred because of our problems. How do we do that? Communicate with your wife. Talk to her about what you’ve learned about what you’re struggling with. Let her know that you’re trying to understand the root cause of your problem so that it doesn’t happen ever again! Support her in helping her understand the process you’re going through in recovery. As you continue to progress, you pray that God will minister and send some God-fearing women who have been through this struggle to give her the support she really needs from a woman’s perspective. She needs to know that she isn’t alone and that this was not her fault. So waiting a while, I’d say at least a good year maybe a year and half depending on the severity of your situation, would be great time to take a look at disclosure and assess where you both are at that time. It’s not about when you’re ready-it’s about when YOU BOTH are ready. There is a lot more involve when considering disclosure. So again, I would wait and make sure your wife has had some support, healing, accountability and understanding before moving forward. Don’t be in a rush. It will only make things worst.

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Posted by Men of Redemption on June 16, 2017


“I’ve struggled with addictive behaviors for over 20 years now, everything from porn to infidelity and everything in between. I want to stop this behavior because I know I’m a better man than what I’ve displayed myself as. I want to stop but it’s so hard and I don’t what to do or how to go about it. What can I do to rid myself of this behavior before something worst happens to me?

WOW. Sounds like you’ve come or coming to a crisis of truth. I’ll explain that later. Sounds like you’re tired of being sick and tired. I’ve been there and just like you I was fed up and needed to something and fast! First of all, I acknowledged my sin. These behaviors are a lifestyle of sin, a nature that has captivated men since the beginning of time. When you have acknowledged your sin, make confession the Lord God Almighty, Jesus Christ, and bring it before the Lord. Then ask Him to forgive you of your sin and behavior, and help you understand what it is you’ve been through. Now, it doesn’t stop there. You need to seek out a couple of things: (1) some Christian Counseling to better understand the struggles you’ve been through for the last 20 years. Christian counseling will help you identify the root causes of your behavior; going back into your past and discovering when this actually took place. You have to go back in your history and deal with the root before you even consider moving forward. The counselor will then help formulate a plan to help you overcome and sustain a life of purity that will involve setting up boundaries and structure which will involve accountability, transparency and honesty. If you really want to rid yourself of these behaviors these three components are crucial to this process. Then (2) you need to find a Men’s Support Group that is structured in the same way that your counselor has set up a plan for you. You need a men’s group that is structured with high levels of confidentiality, accountability and group leaders who are trained to walk with you on this journey on a personal level.  This group needs to have in place a foundation that is proven, vital to the cause of redemption and walking in freedom. It cannot be a group that meets once a week, go through the motions and then turn you lose after the meeting and then no immediate contact until you reconvene the following week. You need a group that’s going to be with you in this journey 24-7, through phone calls, through visitation and through face-to-face meetings. You need this kind of criteria if you truly want to rid yourself of these behaviors.

As I mentioned earlier, sounds like you’re having a crisis of truth. This is when you’ve reached or face a decision or moment in your life that going to have made a decision you never really wanted to make in your life and you have to make it. Whether it’s a catastrophe, loss of a family member, loss of your marriage or career, all because of your addictive behaviors. Your addictive behaviors can do exactly that if you don’t stop in your tracks and realize where you’re at in life and with your behaviors. This is why you need to make the decision before the decision is made for you. So don’t put it off any longer, DO IT NOW!! You have to understand you’re not playing with something you can go and get a subscription of pills for and it’ll leave you in a couple of days. This is a spiritual battle, and you can’t fight this battle with fleshly remedies. You have to use spiritual weapons for spiritual warfare. You don’t want the consequences of your actions to dictate what will or can happen to you, it’s that serious! So get some help now and don’t wait my friend. There is help out there IF you truly want it!

“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”  –  Ephesians 6:10-12      


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Posted by Men of Redemption on June 13, 2017


“I’m struggling with accountability. I know accountability is crucial to the entire process but I just can’t seem to get into the habit of calling the guys in my group when I never really called guys before. It’s always been women I’ve called. How do I get pass this?”

Understanding and relational development is the key to accountability. If you belong to a group that has strong accountability practices, and they follow through in those practices consistently, you will begin to understand why there is a need to have other men in your life with purpose. While most men were in their “mess” – (this is what we called their addictive behaviors) those of us who acted out with women, they were our initial and immediate contacts. So whenever we got the desire we’d always call women. Now that you’re in recovery, and you have made a conscious decision to allow God to change and transform your mind and heart, God will also strengthen you to understand that we need Men of God in our lives to help us, to strengthen us and to mentor us as we move forward in our recovery. We have to eradicate the desire to “run” to women when we want to act out-instead, we need to persevere and run to our brothers, Men of God, who are there for our support and guidance to help us, to prevent us from falling again to the prey of women.

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”  –  Proverbs 27:17

When we begin to understand why Godly men are important to our recoveries, and God has impressed upon your heart that having that relationship with them is paramount, then you’ll see their importance in and for your life. Reaching out to other men will gradually erase, and eventually eradicate your desire to contact women for pleasure altogether because you’re going to develop purpose with these Men of God, and this is called relationship. Most men in recovery never had a brother or brothers that they could talk to or bond with on a personal level. Yeah, you have guys who you talk sports, politics and women about. But where are the men when you’re hurting or have been hurt; when you need to confide in someone over a heart issue, or when you want to talk to a brother about your struggles with addictive behaviors? Where are those guys when you really need them? Accountability helps you to develop relationship exactly for this purpose. You can get pass this by opening yourself up totally to accountability, developing relationship with Men of God who will encourage you, who will pray with and for you through your struggles and walk alongside you in your journey. That’s how you can get pass your struggle my friend.

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Posted by Men of Redemption on June 9, 2017


“I’m enjoying my support group a lot but my work schedule won’t permit me to make regular attendance consistently. I know my group leader tells me I need to be there but I can’t make it to group on some nights. What can I do to assure my group leader that I want to be there but work is not cooperating?      

We run into this situation all the time in our group. For one, your job is your livelihood, and we will never ask you to anything that would interfere with that. There are two directions you could go with this concern and either one can work to your benefit.

Talk with your Group Leader and see if the work involved can be made up. This option seems to work for a lot of guys in many groups because the work involved eventually gets completed. It lets the Group Leader know that he cares about getting his work done. It also gives the group member an opportunity stay involved with the group when he’s not in attendance as the group will extend they’re prayers for him to somehow get the time off that’s required and be with them. On the other hand, the member not in attendance is missing out on the live interaction with his group, the sharing and edification of one another and the accountability efforts for the group as a whole. This is where the frustration lies with most guys, not being there when they really need to be. But with a work schedule that has been in place for a while it’s hard to make the meetings when work isn’t cooperating so you might consider this option if you can’t get the time off.

Talk with your Boss and let him/her know what’s important to you on the night you have a group. This option will require some prayer and favor from the Lord, and it can be accomplished! On a day where you can meet with your boss, sit down with him/her and share what you’re doing on that given night. If you have the kind of working relationship where you can talk with your boss, share with them (in confidentiality) what your focus is on that night, maybe share a little about your struggles and what this group means to you when you attend regularly. Your boss needs to know what’s important to you when it comes to life, especially if you have a good relationship with them. Then, with some prayer, and the transparency you just share with you boss, maybe then they will consider making some modifications or actually making a decision to give you that night off permanently. It doesn’t always happen like that, but in some cases it truly does. Now, your boss just might say “No” to your request altogether, so you just accept their answer and inform your Group Leader of the decision and go from there. You have done all that you can do as far as making something happen. Your Group Leader should understand your dilemma and work with you within the guidelines and protocol of the group structure.

Now this isn’t the end of your request. You can still continue to pray, and ask God to make way where there was no way, and God can and will move upon hearts. You just never know. One day you just might walk into your job site and the boss wants to see you immediately and then says something like this . . . .

“I’ve given some thought to your request. You have been an outstanding employee for us for quite some time. After thinking about it carefully and what we’re doing here in the company, I think we can accommodate your request at this time. Your request is granted!”

Nothing but God my friend. Nothing but God Himself!


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