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Posted by Men of Redemption on August 11, 2017


Today’s Reading: 2 Timothy 4:1-5 . . . .

“I charge you therefore before God and the Lord Jesus Christ, who will judge the living and the dead at His appearing and His kingdom: Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all longsuffering and teaching. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers; and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables. But you be watchful in all things, endure afflictions, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.


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A Writer’s Thoughts On . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on March 7, 2016



Writer's thoughtsSome Thoughts on . . . . Regaining Lost Trust. 

This is one of the most sought-after advances most us in recovery try to obtain after having lost the trust in a marriage or relationship. We realize that we have abused the privilege to be trusted, by the way we’ve treated the ones that really love us, and by our unfaithful and untrue commitment to them. Once trust has been lost, it’s one of the hardest things to earn back from the ones we’ve hurt. The problem is, that when we’re trying to earn that trust back we really don’t see or understand the pain and/or the hurt we’ve caused that person or persons. That pain or hurt has resonated within those we’ve hurt with such intensity that the very thought of forgiveness is a distant memory. Not everyone is willing to forgive, especially at a time when we think we’ve done enough for them to forgive us. Here’s the problem: it’s not about when we think they should forgive us, but when they are ready to consider to forgive us, it will be through a change of heart and transformation of our mindset. Yeah, I know that sounds more than what most people are willing to do but it’s a fact. How will they know if we’ve changed or still have that same mindset to perhaps continue in those behaviors.  

They’ll never know or believe we’ve changed unless they are truly convinced by transformation my friends. Our words are not enough to convince anyone to start trusting us again. It has to be something within that changes our whole perspective on relationship, re-developing thoughts of honesty and transparency. That, in itself is a process that takes time, a lot more time than we think or imagine. I hear so many guys tell their wives “It’s been nearly six months since I’ve done anything wrong so you need to get over it and start trusting me again.” Not a good thing to tell your wife when you’re trying start regaining her trust. This only prolongs the process and makes matters worse. After hearing that, it’ll probably be a long time before she even considers trusting us again. So please guys don’t use this as an excuse to walk away from your marriage just because she won’t trust you when you expect her to. That’s a cop-out. Just own up to your problems or issues, take ownership, and start the process to work on earning back her trust, and be willing to do everything it takes to make it right. Our mindset, the way we see and do things has to change, but it must be a genuine effort from the heart which will bring transformation to our minds and behavior.

Just some thoughts from a brother who has overcome the desiring trust prematurely, discovering that it’s not about when I’m ready but when she is secure in my efforts to following the Lord Jesus Christ to bring the transformation and mindset for trust to return to make her feel secure in our marriage. That process continues to work for me daily because my trust is in God as I follow Him. Then, as I continue to follow God, my wife has gradually placed that lost trust back into me. Just saying . . . .

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”  –  ROMANS  12:1, 2


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