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Today, I Will Trust God To . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 10, 2017

 

 

.  .  .  TO HELP ME BECOME LIFE GIVING BY THE WORDS THAT I SPEAK.

For this day, Lord God, I pray and ask that you heavenly Father strengthen me to speak with the wisdom and grace of your Word so that others will see You O God in me and not myself; that encouragement and edification would be received and understood by those whom I speak them to. Instill in me Lord God, a peaceful and contrite spirit, where love, joy, longsuffering and kindness rests upon the walls of my heart; Teach Heavenly Father how to know humility, to love one another as you have loved and continue to love me. Let your peace reign within me that what comes out of me will bring hope and lead them to you O God.

“The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters; The wellspring of wisdom is a flowing brook.”  –  Proverbs 18:4

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WHAT’S YOUR QUESTION ABOUT RECOVERY?

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 20, 2017

MY QUESTION IS . . . .

“I feel I’m doing really well in my recovery group, as I’ve seen a lot of growth from where I used to be. It’s been nearly seven months of sobriety and I’m very encouraged as I move forward. Because of that growth, I’d like to have disclosure with my wife, sharing with her to know everything I’ve done to her in my addictive behaviors. Is this a good time to begin this process or should I wait?

Thank you for honesty and courage in sharing where you are in your recovery. That confession does show that you’re moving in the right direction. The answer to your question-WAIT. I truly understand your desire to be open and transparent with your wife, which is one of the goals we ought to pursue while in recovery, but we need to understand the sensitivity side of having disclosure. It’s good that you’re very proud of where you are in your journey, and keep up the good work. But seven months is not nearly enough time of sobriety to even consider disclosure. At this stage in your recovery you’re probably still working on some deep issues-trauma, hurts for the past, identifying those issues that have prohibited you from moving forward in life, as well as maybe some relationship concerns. I wholeheartedly understand you wanting to further the process of disclosure as you gain more confidence and healing in your recovery, but it’s also about understanding where your wife is emotionally, mentally and spiritually. If she has not received or have been receiving any support while you’re doing your recovery, that means that she’s still harboring that pain, that broken trust, with nowhere to turn or get help herself. Sometimes as men in recovery we can get so excited about our progress, but we tend to forget that the very person who was the recipient of the collateral damage we’ve cause with our behaviors was our wives. As we progress, we need to keep in mind our wives, what we’ve put them through, and all that they had incurred because of our problems. How do we do that? Communicate with your wife. Talk to her about what you’ve learned about what you’re struggling with. Let her know that you’re trying to understand the root cause of your problem so that it doesn’t happen ever again! Support her in helping her understand the process you’re going through in recovery. As you continue to progress, you pray that God will minister and send some God-fearing women who have been through this struggle to give her the support she really needs from a woman’s perspective. She needs to know that she isn’t alone and that this was not her fault. So waiting a while, I’d say at least a good year maybe a year and half depending on the severity of your situation, would be great time to take a look at disclosure and assess where you both are at that time. It’s not about when you’re ready-it’s about when YOU BOTH are ready. There is a lot more involve when considering disclosure. So again, I would wait and make sure your wife has had some support, healing, accountability and understanding before moving forward. Don’t be in a rush. It will only make things worst.

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Recovery Tip For This Week!

Posted by Men of Redemption on November 21, 2016

Road_RecoveryThis Week’s tip . . . .

 

 

Share Your Victories With A Support Group!

As you gain victory one day at a time, it increases your confidence of knowing that you can succeed in life without cutting corners or looking for shortcuts by participating in negative behaviors or activities. Those of us in recovery don’t need to pretend to be something or someone else to gain attention, affirmation or acknowledged, then go hide behind them so no one can see our hurts, our pains, etc. We’re not a pity party waiting and looking for guests to arrive. If recovery has truly had its way in our lives we’ll want to share our story with someone and tell them how good God is and has been to us. And what better way to tell our testimony than to share it with a group of guys who trying to get where you are! There are so many guys looking for healing, ways to get out of their mess, their behaviors but still continue to struggle. Many guys don’t even know what real freedom in Christ looks like once He has cleansed and restored a guy. And if that’s you whom Christ has made whole through recovery, then you ought to desire to bring that story to someone and give them that opportunity to receive freely what you have received. God has done a miracle in our lives, those of us who are walking in freedom from our addictive behaviors and He didn’t just heal us to keep that healing to ourselves. He wants us to share that healing, that testimony with others so that they too, can experience the same love we have. If God can be that hope for us then He can be that hope for everyone.

“Have mercy upon me, O God, According to Your lovingkindness; According to the multitude of Your tender mercies, Blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight—That You may be found just when You speak, And blameless when You judge . . . . Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from Your presence, And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, And uphold me by Your generous Spirit. Then I will teach transgressors Your ways, And sinners shall be converted to You.”    Psalm  51:1-4, 10-13

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Recovery Tip For This Week

Posted by Men of Redemption on October 10, 2016

Road_RecoveryThis Week’s Tip . . . .

 

 

SHARE YOUR STORY FOR GOD’S GLORY

As you become consistent in your recovery, and as God continues to bring healing, understanding to our hearts and minds, consider sharing your renewed, transforming lifestyle with others. As we move forward in recovery, we see and experience real true life through Christ’ eyes, through His Holy Spirit, with wisdom and knowledge to help us make the right decisions for our lives. We spend time restructuring priorities; we reorganize the way we spend our time with others; and most importantly we try to align our lives according to God’s Word. With these attributes, characteristics of faith and promise operating in our lives, we can and will see the transformation from a life of addictive behavior to one of holiness and purity with God’s perspective. Making our Heavenly Father happy with our lives and pleasing Him is our focus as we continue to seek purity with our entire being. One of the ways that will help us in this endeavor is sharing our story with others.

Whatever road you may have travelled that led you to a life of discontent, confusion or just out of control, God’s healing and transformation in your life through recovery will bring hope and understanding to those who don’t have any at all. Someone out there is looking for someone, somebody to step up and declare the hope that is in us who have overcome, who are trying to live a life that has consistency in purity. Yeah, we know we’re trying daily, and it’s a one day at a time process, but those of us who have been true, been honest and consistent with our efforts, we need to share our story with others that they might receive the same. Think about it, pray about it, and ask God to give you strength, the determination, as well as the courage to share your story. Somebody is waiting and looking for their breakthrough, and it could be coming right from your story. Let the power of God’s strength lead and guide you into declaring your overcoming by His grace and by His love for us and through us.

 

 

 

 

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What’s On Your Mind?

Posted by Men of Redemption on April 22, 2015

 

WHAT’S ON YOUR MIND? couples

TOPIC: COUPLES IN RECOVERY

My husband is in recovery and I’d like to know about his recovery plan and what he’s doing to make sure he’s getting the right help he needs. What does that look like?

First of all your husband should share and be open about what his recovery plan consists of. If he is truly committed to a plan then he will be open and transparent from the start, sharing with you its content and his desire to move forward in it. That recovery plan should include daily reading of God’s Word; a time of daily prayer; and also includes strict accountability to at least four men he can be honest, open, truthful and transparent to about his actions and behavior 24/7. He should be speaking to his accountability cord daily or as agreed upon depending on the issues involved. Daily accountability may not be warranted but consistent communication and face-to-face meetings are a must! As he works the plan, the process will take its course, and with time you will begin to see small amounts of transformation taking place. It’s a process that’s going to take a while for consistency to establish itself but if he is totally committed to the process, and meets with his accountability regularly, you will begin to see the life changing experience he’ll be living. It will eventually become a part of his daily living. But be mindful that relapse is probable, and his accountability cord should be there for him in those times of struggle. This will strengthen and encourage him to remain faithful to his recovery plan.

 

 

If you have a question regarding recovery, issues associated with addictive behaviors or sexual integrity and wanting to get some understanding email us at http://www.menofredemption040709@hotmail.com.

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Power Punch with Proverbs

Posted by Men of Redemption on September 1, 2014

Power PunchPROVERBS 10:10

“He who winks with the eye causes trouble, but a prating fool will fall.”

How can a simple wink of the eye cause so much trouble? Well, think about it. What’s your purpose or intent of communication? From the outside a person can look at it as a complement or agreement. But on the other hand, there’s a intended, unknown action or actions left to be desired. No one knows for sure what or why that action was necessary. All of us would like to think that it’s honorable but do we really know for sure? It’s deceptive, unknown, and certainly not obvious to what a person is conveying through their actions. A lot of times it could be misleading and perverted. Other times it may be that we like what we see. Let’s just cut to the chase and communicate verbally with our intentions. Speak those things that we intend to say or share without hiding behind what we really think or feel. Just saying . . .

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Bearing the Burden: Keeping It Simple

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 9, 2014

Bearing burdens We all know someone who has or is going through something in their life and just can’t seem to overcome it. They continue to work at it, do everything they possibly can and nothing seems to work. Most of the time people have friends that they call or visit, and they tend to lean on them for support, guidance, advice or their perspective on their situation. When your friends come to you, do you really know what to do for them? Do you hear their problem and automatically start reciting scripture? Or do you think about it for a minute then give them the first thing that comes to your mind? Well, understanding a person’s dilemma or situation can be a challenge for most but we can keep it simple by following what God’s Word instructs us to do regarding bearing the burdens of others.

“Now we exhort you, brethren, warn those who are unruly, comfort the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be patient with all.”
– 1 Thessalonians 5:14

When comforting a friend who is going through something, most of the time they just want someone is willing to just be there. They’re not looking for an answer to their problem or situation at first, they just want someone to hear them. In the above verse we can see some practical ways we can help others.

BEING THERE
Before we try to help someone in their time of need and understanding, one of the best things we can do is simply just be there for them. They don’t want you to deliver the answer right away because it may not be the answer they are looking for. You may be one several people they share their struggle with and they may want different perspectives from each of you. Just being there is what most people want at first.

LISTENING
Comfort the fainthearted, in other words, most people want someone who will listen to their situation or problem, not give or offer their advise right away because it may not be about fixing it. They’re hurting or struggling emotionally or mentally and they may want to share what and how they are feeling, so having a friend there to listen makes a huge difference when they can tell their story.

SHARING
You can relate to someone who is struggling by sharing your own painful experiences with someone as it relates to theirs. Knowing that you have been through something similar creates a safe environment for that person to open up and reveal the wound or hurts that’s troubling them.

PRAY
There is nothing like praying with and over someone who has a dilemma or problem that seems overwhelming or unable to conquer. Speaking their situation in prayer allows the goodness of God to reached down and bring comfort, peace and divine wisdom to their need. Asking them to share their situation with Christ enables them to experience the joy of His love no matter how bad they’re situation or dilemma may be.

GIVING
Some people can relate to our willingness to help them out because they see us do it all the time, but sometimes it may be financial or material. Show them that you are willing to help in that area if you can or God enables you to do this. God will place their concern on your heart and move compassionately by His Spirit, upholding the weak and providing for everyone involved.

SUBSTITUTE
Depending on your relationship with Christ, you may want to stand in for that person and assume their burden, stepping in and taking their place or substituting yourself for them. This is what Christ did for us – He was a substitute for us so that we wouldn’t perish but have everlasting life.

Obviously we can’t do this for every one we meet with an issue or problem because some issues require assistance beyond our qualifications. But if we try to show some type of concern, some guidance of caring for people, we emulate the personality and character of Christ, and that’s exactly what He desires in us. No need to try and find the answer to every situation or problem. Just be a friend, a loving, kind and considerate friend that will listen, pray, share and give to others as Christ did unconditionally. This will make a difference in every life we touch with our lives. Keep it simple. You may discover you can touch more lives than you’ll ever imagine. Just saying.

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What’s Your Response When the Lord Calls You to Task?

Posted by Men of Redemption on April 21, 2014

Feed my sheep The Day After. Yesterday we celebrated Resurrection Day, acknowledging our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is alive, still accomplishing His imminent will in the earth through His people and those who are willing. We rejoiced with others, singing hymns and praises to the Lamb of God who was slain that saved us from the wrath that we should’ve experienced because of our sin. But because God gave His only Son to die in our place so that we wouldn’t have to die, He showed us how much He truly loved us, his greatest creation. WOW! Every time I think I think of such mercy and grace I’m overwhelm to see what real love truly is. And now, after the celebration, what now? God saw our hearts and felt our desires of admiration and praise for His love toward us, so what’s our next step in continuing to show God our love and admiration for His unconditional love? This is where we as Christians really need to identify with our purpose here on the earth and why God created us. Our main goal or purpose is to glorify God in all that say and do. Many of us had no idea of this purpose, thinking that soon, one day, God will reveal our purpose to us. When God created the world and everything in it, it was meant and designed to glorify Him. But what does that look like? How are we to glorify a God that has everything, knows all things, and is in everything because He created it? If we look at Peter in John 21, we’ll see what he did when Jesus asked him a simple question that all of us are asked and challenged with daily.
After the spending the night trying to catch some fish, Peter and several of the disciples failed to catch anything. Then Jesus was waiting on shore as they arrived and instructed them to cast their net onto the right side of the boat where moments later they had so much fish that it was hard to bring the net ashore (John 21:3-6). Then Jesus told Peter and the disciples to sit and have breakfast. After breakfast, Jesus then ask Peter that all important question we all face daily: “Do you love Me more than these?” (John 21:15). Now that Peter and the disciples were full, ready for their daily activities and then Jesus asks Peter does he love Him more than theses!
Peter says “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.” Then Jesus says “Feed my lambs.” Then Jesus asked Peter a second and third time do you love Me. And Peter’s answer was the same, but a little bit irritated because he knew the Lord Jesus knew all things. That’s was just where Peter was in his life at that time.
Well, I share this story with you because we are so much like Peter in our daily walk with Christ. We walk around daily in our lives going through the motions of trying to live righteously and saying the right things but we forget that we are to feed His lambs. First of all, have we thought about the time in our lives when were lambs? If we know anything about lambs, they are innocent creatures who are literally dumbfounded about life and direction, needing guidance and purpose in all that they do. Hummmmmm, man can I relate to this before I became a Christian! Someone came to us and showed us who Christ was, gave us the Gospel to read and understand, to pray with and for us so that we can see and understand the Way, the Truth and the Life. After we became “seasoned” Christians many of us have forgotten where we came from and don’t or fail to remember that there are more lambs out there that need and desire the same attention and instruction we got when we were lambs in a world that was already preparing us for slaughter. This is what Jesus was telling Peter after breakfast about feeding His lambs. He didn’t want Peter to forget that there are so many other lost people out there in the world that need what he has, knowing a Savior that is alive and working in him for His purpose. Sometimes we think after we solidify our relationship with Christ that everything is all good now and our work is done. On the contrary, it’s only the beginning as Peter soon found out. Our relationship with Christ is more than just a commitment and declaration to ourselves, it’s about being a light, bringing that Hope in Christ to others by the life we live in Him. Feeding His lambs asks us to deny our ourselves and follow Him into all truth and understanding.

“Jesus said to him, “Feed My sheep. Most assuredly, I say to you, when you were younger, you girded yourself and walked where you wished; but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will gird you and carry you where you do not wish.” – John 21:18

I was like a lamb before I became a follower of Christ, not knowing the truth, looking for guidance and understanding in a world filled with compromise, deception and no regard for morality or truth. Then some people came into my life that brought this Gospel to me and helped me understand the Cross, why Jesus died, why He gave His life for me, and what it meant for my life, destiny and future. Now, one of my goals is to reach out and help those other lambs find what I have found and guide them to this hope in Jesus Christ. Feeding them can be in the forms of sharing the gospel, praying for others, inviting others to church or Bible studies, as well as living a life that’s displaying the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-25). It’s not as hard to feed the lambs if we consider we were once lambs ourselves and what others did for us when we needed understanding. We can have the same impact that Peter and many others in the Bible had if we trust in that blessed hope, Jesus Christ (John 21:24).

One of the most inspiring verses that His Word gives us in regards to sharing, feeding and witnessing can be found in Matthew 28:18-20 . . .

“And Jesus came and spoke to them, saying, “All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Amen.

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