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A Writer’s Thoughts on . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on April 16, 2018

BELIEVING THE LIE INSTEAD OF TRUSTING IN THE TRUTH Image result for BELIEVING THE LIE

As I continue to work and minister with men in recovery, I see a familiar pattern of uncertainty and a lack of belief in the process. Going into recovery I try to prepare them for the battle against the enemy of our souls, Satan, and his will to influence men that Christ won’t do what He says He will do and for some reason, it’s given some attention. They know the struggle is real, and they can’t do recovery on their own as proven throughout history according to the experts in the study of addictive behaviors. Even myself when I was in my “mess” I tried to do recovery, make needed changes, do the right thing, but I failed every time. So having that experience of failure, knowing what it looks like in not being able to succeed in recovery, I’ve used that season in my life as an example to let men know that I’ve been there and that I’ve learned and continued to learn that accountability is strongly needed and essential to the recovery process. But there is a stigma that is attached to every recovery journey that most seems to dwell on the lie that my recovery won’t happen because of all the shame and guilt that I’ve caused and infiltrated into the lives of others and myself. That is a lie from Satan himself and from the pits of hell! Satan knows that Jesus Christ is the answer to all situations, problems, and recovery success, and he wants to distort or influence us into not believing Him or the process involved. We can see an example of God’s Word regarding the negative influence that Satan had on creation in the beginning with Adam and Eve.

Image result for adam and eveNow the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’” “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”   –  Genesis 3:1-5 

When men come to the end of themselves where they have nowhere else to turn but up, they’re faced with no other choice but to cry out. I’ve been there. They get into a men’s support group, usually by a recommendation from a counselor, Pastor or friend, and the recovery journey starts. But as the journey begins, the enemy is right there observing that man because he has “sifted” him knowing he isn’t strong enough to take on this important challenge he’s about to embark on. With the recovery facilitators and group leaders in one ear, and the enemy in the other, the man is confused and often disoriented about his decision to make this venture happen. His thoughts are how can this happen or is this real, and this is a waste of time. If he goes into recovery thinking like this, how much harder is it for those of us who are committed to helping him if the decision to not succeed has already been made? This is where we who are working to help the men have to understand where they are, where we were in our mess, and let them know we are there for them, and we’re trusting God, not the lie that has been spoken over them by the enemy. Being there involves understanding their struggles and defining where the lie began. Bringing truth to his struggles is embarrassing, to say the least, but it must happen. With Adam and Eve, God brought truth and reality back into focus. Image result for adam and eve

“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.””   –  Genesis 3:6-13

This is exactly what happens to us who have struggled or are struggling with addictive behaviors. We believed the lie. We were convinced and influenced that it wasn’t as bad as it seems or appears. Everything looks good, nobody will get hurt or would even be involved because it only involved me. We see how the lie distorts and influences our thoughts. When the truth comes to the forefront, that’s when the shame and guilt take effect, and just like a turtle when he wants to protect himself he ducks back into his shell not wanting to be seen to avoid exposure. Those of us who work with men in recovery have a difficult task ahead of us as some already know. But the challenge remains-doing everything we can as facilitators, group leaders, counselors, pastors, and lay-ministers, to help men understand and trust God, and not believe the lie because that’s exactly what that is, an untruth, deception, just a flat-out LIE!! 

 

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A Writer’s Thoughts On . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on September 12, 2017

.  .  .  GOALS: CHASING AFTER THEM OR RUNNING FROM THEM?

Image result for chsing goalsSo we’re in recovery working on rearranging priorities, allowing God to renew, transform mindsets and our thoughts. And along this journey we’re taking we’ve decided to map out some goals that we’d like to achieve, or at least attempt to reach since we have such a great climb to embark on. So where are you in your goal chasing now that you’ve settled in on your recovery and all of your efforts that you’ve committed to? Or have you set some goals that you’ve overestimated and have decided that you can’t or won’t reach? Or, have you decided that some goals you have set for yourself seem to be too demanding and it’s taking you out of your comfort zone so you’re not pursing them any longer and you’re running from them because the challenge is too much for you? Either way, goals are motivation, and as we continue in our recovery we need goals to shoot for because they will encourage us to go after something that we desire and hope for.

In recovery, there is a place we want to get to at least maintain a consistent life of walking in freedom from the mess we’ve been fighting most of our life. We want to get past the lying to people; we want to able to be honest and sincere without having to deceive or manipulate those around us to gain advantage; and we want to live a life that’s pleasing to God without saying we’re committed to Him but the life we’re living is anything but holy and pure. I think these goals that I have just mentioned are just a few that many of us want to achieve or at least get to that point just to know that you can actually do it. I’ve been asked often by those who read our articles through some comments that when I explain some issues or concerns about what many people are going through in life they ask . . . “It sounds like the people you’re talking about are a little off . . . Are those you speak about that out of touch with life that they don’t get it?” As I read their comments, my heart speaks and cries out for all those who struggle because I know where they are in life with their struggles because I was once there. I know what setting goals are about, not reaching them; not having the confidence or ambition to overcome and settling with whatever life throws at me. That’s not living a productive and God-fearing life! There are those in life who need encouragement, who need motivation to persevere and move forward into the destiny that God has already prepared for them. So I stand in defense for all those who “don’t get it” and those who “are a little off” because it may not have been their fault. Everyone can turn things around, some just need a little push or infusion of courage to move forward in their goals in life. Image result for running from goals

Goals are set for specific reasons. I don’t believe any of us wants to remain where we are in this life, especially when we know that God has so much more for each and every one of us. Whether we’re chasing our goals or running from them for whatever reasons, we can stop right where we’re at and change the course of action we’re taking and begin again. It’s never too late, especially in recovery. Even if we see the challenge is overwhelming, and we’ve had to second-guess our goal-don’t look at the feat or what it’s going to take and how long, look at that goal and declare . . . “You know I set you some time ago and you scared me. But you know what-I’m not going to allow you to dictate what I can or cannot achieve. I will achieve you and I will come out on top!” 

Just some thoughts from a brotha who has set a number of goals, and everyday that God has given me life, health and strength, I will continue to take the attitude that I can and will overcome all obstacles and goals that are before me and in my way in life. I am an overcomer, and I will succeed if I stay the course, trust God in all things, and keep Him first in everything I set out to do in this life. Just saying . . . .

“Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” 

–  Philippians 3:12-14 

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Today I Will Trust God . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on July 19, 2017

 

. . . . TO STRENGTHEN ME WHEN I SUFFER FOR RIGHT AND WRONG.

This day Father God, I’m trusting you to keep me from harm and evil from those who are against me because of my faith in you; protect me O God from the slander and evil deeds of those who don’t want me to succeed in this life. Help me to hold on that blessed hope that is in me that you have placed there in my heart. I trust you O God that you protect me from the threats and anguish of the disobedient.

“And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good? But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you are blessed. “And do not be afraid of their threats, nor be troubled.” But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and always be ready to give a defense to everyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you, with meekness and fear; having a good conscience, that when they defame you as evildoers, those who revile your good conduct in Christ may be ashamed. For it is better, if it is the will of God, to suffer for doing good than for doing evil.

– 1 Peter 3: 13-17

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Today, I Will Trust God . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on July 11, 2017

 

 

 .  .  .  To Reveal the True Intentions of My Heart!

This day, I’m trusting God to help me see my heart for what it is. God, reveal to me the hidden desires that I don’t want to make known to others; that if there is any selfishness or personal gain for advantage in me expose it right now in Jesus’ Name! Eradicate any and all self-reliance upon myself and strengthen me to rely on you O God, the provider and sustainer of my soul. Strengthen my eyes to see you in all things that my heart will not envy others by what they say or what they may do. I will trust you Lord God to do this very thing in me, for your glory.

“My son, give attention to my words; Incline your ear to my sayings. Do not let them depart from your eyes; Keep them in the midst of your heart; For they are life to those who find them, And health to all their flesh. Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life.”    Proverbs  4:20-23

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RECOVERY QUOTE OF THE DAY!

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 19, 2017

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Read Your Word This Morning? – Where and Who is Your Comfort Zone

Posted by Men of Redemption on March 8, 2017

read-your-wordAbiding in His Presence Assures our Safety

 

Fears. We all have them. It just depends on how you deal with your fears. Are you one of those individuals who see the fears that you face daily, know that they’re there, and you just allow them to take they’re course and then deal with the aftermath or consequences later on. That’s the mentality of a lot people in these days of uncertainty. But it doesn’t have to be that way. In reading God’s Word, many of the prophets, those who evangelize and people of faith reiterate that abiding in God’s presence will assure us of how we should handle our fears not matter what they are or attempt to do. Some of the fears that we face have placed a spirit of paralysis on our lives, gaining influence over how we react to situations, circumstances and decisions. That’s not what God’s Word teaches us. We cannot give the enemy of our souls, the devil, permission or authority, to cause havoc and fear in our lives based on the fact that we are not where we want or need to be in Christ Jesus! We cannot allow anxiety to overwhelm us because we placed our hope in the dwelling place of the heavenly Father. His Word comforts us in knowing that He is always there to protect us, to give us assurance that no matter what we go through-mentally, emotionally or spiritually- abiding in His presence will protect us from all strategies of our adversaries. So I believe we have to ask ourselves this question: Are you abiding in the presence of Almighty God by trusting Him in all things as you allow His will to be priority in your life? There is not a right or wrong answer, it’s the understanding that God desires you much more than you’ll ever know because we are His prized creation. He loves us that much! So whatever fears you may have are being challenged in-fear of a better life, fear of moving forward in a promotional opportunity, fear of trusting God to do what He says He will do (yes, this is a big one!), or just the fear of fear itself because you’ve dealt with fear all of your life that it has become a part of your life and thinking, know that God can take away those fears and replace them with His love, His compassion and grace so that we can live in His abundance without fear.

“He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High Shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress; My God, in Him I will trust.” Surely He shall deliver you from the snare of the fowler And from the perilous pestilence. He shall cover you with His feathers, And under His wings you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day, Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. A thousand may fall at your side, And ten thousand at your right hand; But it shall not come near you. Only with your eyes shall you look, And see the reward of the wicked. Because you have made the Lord, who is my refuge, Even the Most High, your dwelling place, No evil shall befall you, Nor shall any plague come near your dwelling; For He shall give His angels charge over you, To keep you in all your ways. In their hands they shall bear you up, Lest you dash your foot against a stone. You shall tread upon the lion and the cobra, The young lion and the serpent you shall trample underfoot. “Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore I will deliver him; I will set him on high, because he has known My name. He shall call upon Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him and honor him. With long life I will satisfy him, And show him My salvation.” –  Psalm 91:1-16

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Today I Will Trust God To . . . .

Posted by Men of Redemption on October 31, 2016

 

 

TO GIVE ME STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH THIS DAY

Yes Lord. As I arise this morning and begin my devotional reading and quiet time with you, I’m praying for strength, the strength that will sustain me throughout the day I’m about to embark on. I don’t know what it’s going to bring but I need your guidance, your protection and your discernment to navigate my mind and heart through it all. I know there will be challenges, situations and circumstances that will be beyond my understanding. Help me Heavenly Father to be mindful of your grace and mercy that I might do everything this day that will be pleasing to you and you alone. I need your Holy Spirit to lead me unto all truth and understanding because I cannot lean to my own. So Father God, help me get through this day with your strength, your power, that I might glorify you with this life you have blessed me with this day!

“And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” – 2 Corinthians 12:9

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Recovery Tip For This Week!

Posted by Men of Redemption on August 29, 2016

praiseTip for this week . . . .

 

Know What You’re Believing God For

 

Because thinking shapes our beliefs, and beliefs in turn determine our lifestyle, a biblical mindset is virtually in important in our sanctification. Every day that God gives us we choose to let either the world or God’s Word shape our thoughts and actions. In recovery, we need to have the mindset that God’s Word is our foundation and that’s what we will stand on, and that’s what we will believe. Last week we shared about being focused and determined to stay the course. But we also want to know what we believe and allow that belief to stay out front so we can see it and apply it. Those of us in recovery, we have to know what we’re believing God for if we are to have success in our efforts toward purity and pleasing God. Of course we all want to walk in freedom, in wholeness and in truth, but with all that we’re doing do we honestly believe we can attain that goal? If we know what God has brought us through we have to believe that we will walk in true freedom if continue to stay the course that is set before us. What we’re believing God for is critical to our success, and not wavering in that belief is instrumental in being consistent and true to our journey in this. I truly believe that God wants me healed and walking in holiness, living in the liberty of His glory, and pursuing Him righteously without direction or fear. Know that God desires us to be holy in all that we say, see, hear and do. What we believe will help determine, and guide us unto all truth and understanding if we stand on our beliefs and trust God to do all that He says He will do. I have no doubt that He will complete in me what He has started, without fail. Do you believe the same in your recovery? Begin to evaluate what you’re believing God for in your recovery. Are you trusting Him for daily victory? Are you believing He will get you through all that you face from the moment you awake till the time you close your eyes for bed? Start checking your belief system and redefine what you’re believing God for in your recovery.

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Read Your Word This Morning?

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 8, 2016

Daily MannaReading the Word every day helps us understand that the people in the Bible have had the experiences that we have in life, and we can learn how they dealt with those issues so we can use the same guidelines, same principles that they used to overcome their problems. The more we read God’s Word, we can learn life’s experiences, the challenges that will come and looking at how God used His wisdom and knowledge to bring them through it encourages us to trust Him the same way they did. But also we can learn the disobedience of those who decide they want to do life on their own and the consequences that follow them. The good thing about reading His Word is that He leaves us the choice to obey Him or not to obey Him. There are many stories that talk about having choices and what they chose to do. But God also gives us instruction as to why and how He does what He does. Keep reading His Word and learn about life’s challenges and how to overcome them by trusting His Word, just like those who came before us.

“You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.”  –  PSALM  16:11

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Read Your Word This Morning?

Posted by Men of Redemption on June 7, 2016

Daily MannaWhen you read your Word, do you know that whenever God says to do anything or go somewhere He’s very specific in His directions and purpose? As you read His Word, you will discover that God is a straight-ahead, direct loving God. God doesn’t play with our emotions or our heads. He knows specifically what He has in mind for us to do, and gives us those instruction sometimes verbally and through His Word. As we read His Word, we must take God as His Word instructs us, not in pieces we like and leave the rest. His Word is true, and there are no frailties or errors in His Word at all. We don’t have to second guess God because He is a righteous and Holy God whose Word speaks with power and clarity. So fear reading God’s Word because you don’t like what He’s saying. Understand that His Word is meant to help us, give us instruction on how to live life, a holy life, without getting ensnared by the world’s greed and self-seeking mentality. Read His Word with reverence to Him, acknowledging Him in all things because He is life!

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